When you’re in love, you often miss the signs that your relationship is getting one-sided. Could it be? Could you be in this type of situation?
It’s easy to fall into the trap of a one-sided relationship. In the beginning, everything seems perfect. This is mainly due to the fact that you’re seeing things through what some call “rose-colored glasses”. This means your relationship looks and feels amazing, and the new love is so strong it covers all faults and imperfections…even the one-sided traits.
When love is unequally yoked
Don’t beat yourself up if you realize you’ve been a part of an unfair situation with your mate. Many people endure this and often see the signs as normal aspects of the union. I have endured one-sided aspects of a relationship before, but I survived. And no, I’m not still feeling like a fool. It happens to plenty of people, honestly.
So, without dragging this on, here are some signs you may have been ignoring.
1. You always reach out first
It’s okay to reach out to your partner when you want to talk. What’s not okay is when you seem to always be the first one to initiate conversations or texts. Honestly, think about it. If your partner never calls first, never starts conversations face to face, and never plans fun things to do with you, then something is terribly wrong.
I believe the relationship is one-sided. In fact, it must be if the other member of the relationship has no desire to reach out for anything.
2. Transparency differs
If you find it easy to open up to your partner, then you’re doing it the right way. Unfortunately, some girlfriends and boyfriends have a hard time opening up at all, and this makes the relationship a one-sided deal. It’s important, to be honest, and it’s healthy to share your feelings with one another.
It’s a bad sign if you’re telling your partner everything, and they’re utilizing a brick wall to hide their feelings, thoughts, and emotions. Maybe you haven’t noticed the difference here before, but I bet you’re considering it now.
3. Issues aren’t fixed
Here’s one that has really irritated me in the past, and I looked past it so many times. Well, I’m here to help you see it early on. Have you expressed something that bothers you to your mate? How did they react? If your partner listened and helped you work through these things, that’s good. If they told you that you’re nagging and then refused to change any of these issues, then you might be fighting a one-sided battle.
While we should all have freedom, we should never let our freedom come before the feelings of our mate. In healthy relationships, partners express things that bother them, and they both work on ways to fix the issues, either compromising or sacrificing damaging influences. You will know you’re in a one-sided situation with your partner when he or she refuses to be considerate to your feelings.
4. Wrong priorities
One way to reveal a relationship that’s unequal is to pay attention to your partner’s priorities. While priorities can vary a bit when it comes to relationships, no one should pick their friends over their partner. It’s just not right. If your partner rather spends time with friends than you, you could be in a relationship that just isn’t fair.
5. Too many or wrongful apologies
Apologies are important, but not when you’re handing them out left and right for no reason. If you make a mistake or do something wrong, by all means, say you’re sorry. But don’t get stuck on apologies to please your significant other. If you are shelling out apologies for being tired or for something you didn’t do, then the relationship is coming from a one-sided angle.
6. Making excuses
If you find yourself making excuses for your partner’s behavior, then you could be in a one-sided situation. Of course, this also depends on why you’re making excuses as well. If you are ashamed of your partner, then making excuses is an issue within YOU, but if you’re making excuses because of mistreatment, then seems like your partner has the upper hand.
You are helping them portray an image that isn’t real. It might be time to get out.
7. There’s way too much stress
I realized something a long time ago, and here is what I know now: If there are more bad times than good, it’s time to evaluate the relationship. Being overly stressed out may be due to an imbalanced love affair. If one person is stressed out and the other one seems happy and carefree, something isn’t right. It’s time to consider the future of your relationship.
8. There’s just a feeling
Sometimes you just feel like the relationship is unfair. Maybe you’re dealing with negative energies which cause you to question the future with your boyfriend. Honestly, there may be no clear reasons why you feel this way, but the feeling may be so strong that you build resentment. This is the time to evaluate all the other signs above and see if some of these things are happening right under your nose.
Hey, some things just aren’t that obvious when you’re in love, and all you have to go on is a lingering feeling of doubt. Pay attention to this.
Some relationships aren’t meant to last
I hate to tell you, but when one side dominates the other in a relationship, it will usually fail if not improved or changed. The key is always equality when it comes to how you treat your mate and how they treat you in return. It’s only fair that both parties get the attention, love, and care they deserve. If you think you’re in a one-sided relationship, it’s time to talk it through.
Sometimes the relationship can be saved.
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