There are many reasons why being alone is much better than being with the wrong person.

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who doesn’t deserve you?

I have and I know what it feels like.

Being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t treat you like a loving partner would treat you, or who simply don’t care about you, feels like a sweet little lie. Everyone around you thinks that you are happy because you are in a relationship, but deep down you know that something is not right.

Deep down you feel that you should rather be alone. You should listen to this feeling. Don’t make the mistake and ignore the voice in your head that tells you that you deserve better. This voice is right. You really deserve better.

You deserve a partner who loves you for who you are, who treats you with respect and who is there for you when you are down. You deserve a fulfilling relationship that makes you smile, not cry.

You might be afraid to be alone. I understand that. I felt the same way when I decided to let go of a person who didn’t deserve me. The only thing that matters in this situation is that you don’t focus on your fear. Instead, focus on all the possibilities that being alone brings along.

And yes, there are many reasons why being alone is much better than being with a person who doesn’t deserve you. Here are some of them:

1. A Person Who Doesn’t Deserve You Will Drain Your Energy

A healthy and supportive relationship is one of the most wonderful things that can happen to you. To know that your partner loves and supports you provides you with positive energy all day long. However, if you are together with someone who doesn’t deserve you and treats you accordingly, your energy level will suffer.

Unhappy and unfulfilling relationships are like a stubborn cold that you simply can’t get rid of. You fight for one week and finally, when it seems to get better, you suffer from a relapse. The same is true for toxic relationships with people who don’t deserve you.

Every time you think that it will get better, they drain your energy more and more. It’s time to get out. It’s time for positive energy and the only way to get positive energy is by abandoning the people who provide you with negative energy.

2. Positive Energy Leads to a Positive Life

But why is it so important that you get rid of someone who drains your energy? Well, because negative energy leads to a negative life and vice versa. The more time you spend with people, who have a negative impact on you, the more negativity you will attract. In this case, the law of attraction works against you.

There is a reason why all successful people say that surrounding yourself with positive people and getting rid of negative people is so important.

Just imagine how much more creative, outgoing and motivated to achieve things in life you would be if you’d spend your time with someone who inspires you and who loves you.

This person might be someone else, or it might be you. Yes, you can be the source of your own positive energy and love yourself is inevitable on the path to personal fulfillment. Being alone can have an immensely positive effect on your life.

3. You Will Regret Every Second You Wasted

Sooner or later you will regret spending too much time with someone who doesn’t deserve you. You will regret every minute that you spent with this person. You’ll think about how you could have invested this time in improving yourself and your life.

Don’t live a life of regret. Life is too short for regrets. Live your life, but don’t live it with someone who doesn’t deserve you. Before you do that, you should live it alone. And hey, when you spend your alone time the right way, it will be easier than ever before to attract someone who actually deserves you.

4. Being Alone Gives You Time to Find Out What You Truly Want

One of the most important reasons why you should rather be alone than being with a person who doesn’t deserve you is directly linked to the decision to attract this person in the first place. Does that sound confusing? I’ll explain.

You are currently together with this negative person because you chose it. You made the conscious choice to spend your time with this person. Now that you know that it wasn’t the best choice you ever made, it’s time to make sure that you don’t make the same mistake twice.

How can you make sure that your next choice will be wiser? By being alone and by thinking about what you truly want. Spend as much time alone as you possibly can and think about what qualities a person who deserves you should have.

5. Your Self-Esteem Wants You to Be Alone

In order to eventually attract a person who deserves you, you need self-esteem. You need self-esteem to go out, to interact with people and to attract someone. The only way to improve your self-esteem in your situation is by being alone.

I am dead serious. A person who doesn’t deserve you will do anything, consciously or subconsciously, to lower your self-esteem. Don’t allow this to happen. Be strong enough to say “goodbye” and to spend time on your own and you will soon be confident enough to attract someone who truly deserves you.

6. You Deserve Someone Who Deserves You

And yes, you deserve someone who deserves you. You are a wonderful human being and you deserve someone who recognizes and appreciates you for who you are. You deserve someone who gives you the support, guidance, and love that you truly want.

Settling down can be something beautiful, but only if the person you settle down with deserves you. That’s why it is so important that you don’t settle before you have found this special someone.

No matter how much time you need to spend on your own, you’ll eventually find someone who deserves you. I found her exactly two years ago and you might find your special someone after being alone for a short period of time.


It is definitely better to spend your time alone than being with a person who doesn’t deserve you. You will have a much more positive energy that allows you to live a positive life without regrets.

Thanks for the time you spend alone, you will soon have the knowledge and the self-esteem to attract a person who deserves you.

And yes, you deserve someone who deserves you and you shouldn’t settle before you have found this special someone.

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This Post Has 2 Comments

  1. Faisal George

    I do not agree on the statement and the explanation as described above, To spend your time alone, makes you more worse and you decay spiritually which means when you see happy families, normal couples or girl/boy friends then you think that you have nothing in this world and you just pass your time without any aim. I have been through all this and I assure you that if you partner is what so ever, you have the ability to change him/her (if animals can have strong bonds, we are humans) we just do not express our feelings or emotion, we want that he/she will understand automatically, no this is not possible and never happens – we both need to discuss and talk & talk endlessly and then we both can find a better solution and can make our bad decision into the happiest decision ever made. The key point is to low the self esteem, ego and be calm & humble when fighting with your partner. Because loneliness KILLS. So, when you talk & discuss and hug or love – it make you the happiest and you can spend your time much more better the to be lonely and if you have a kid or kids then God or Nature has provided you with Gifts – you can watch them and can change your worst decision into the happiest and favorable decision for you, your wife and kids. God Bless You All!

  2. Tracey

    This is so true life is to short to waste , do not be with a person that treats you bad or makes you feel sad, leave get out right now your life will be so much better because you will be happy, you will do things that make you happy , you won’t be dragged down being in a situation you hate and when you see men with the women and kids you will think thank God that’s not you .

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