Being involved in a committed romantic relationship is a beautiful and enlightening experience if you go down this road with your soulmate, but even so, things get rough. What if your dear one suffers from psychological disorders?
There are many obstacles that even the healthiest of individuals face, and these make navigating daily life as a couple much harder. Most couples won’t even have to imagine what they would do if one of them started having hard-hitting issues.
But what happens when serious problems arise? What can you do when your significant other suffers from psychological disorders? There are plenty of questions that need to be answered, so let’s find out.
Defining the Situation
Studies show that a good relationship has beneficial effects on mental health, while the opposite is less encountered. Therefore, psychological disorders are not necessarily a cause for romantic troubles, but resolving them indeed has the power to improve one’s condition in this respect.
To sum it up, the better you and your partner are doing on this front, the more will your lives be positively influenced.
While that is most likely true and anyone who has struggled with psychological disorders can vouch for it, it’s important to remember that your mental health should never depend on the other person. No one is put on this Earth to fight someone else’s battles, so don’t expect to be saved, nor try to be the savior.
Mental illness should never be romanticized, despite pop culture insisting on telling you otherwise.
There are many out there who believe that engaging in a relationship of any kind with someone who is struggling with such a condition is pointless and it will only lead to complications and heartbreak on both sides.
However, two in three people struggling with psychological disorders have said that their partners were completely understanding when they confessed to them.
All in all, the numbers look good on all sides. However, it’s important for you to weigh in your own take on the circumstances at play. If you’re not willing to go through this for various reasons, you need to be honest about it. But don’t rush into this decision either; try to cope with what’s happening first.
How to Cope
You also need to cope with your partner’s disorder and there’s no denying that. At first, you might feel selfish for even having this problem. After all, your loved one is the one struggling. But it’s perfectly understandable that you feel the pressure of this situation hanging ominously above your head too.
For you to be able to provide your significant other with the unconditional love and support they need to pull through, you need to be at peace with what’s happening. And to do this, you will have to assimilate all the new information coming at you and deal with it in an appropriate manner.
One way to understand how to be there for your partner is by looking at other real-life situations of people going through this. And what better way to do this than by finding out about celebrity couples in the same boat?
For example, actor Ryan Reynolds was recently applauded for his role as Marvel antihero Deadpool in the eponymous film, but the time spent making and producing said picture took a big toll on the well-being of his mind. He started struggling with severe anxiety during filming and after the movie was released as well.
However, he mentions his wife, fellow actress Blake Lively, for being the one who helped him get through it. With her support, Reynolds managed to handle his mental health issues and move on to better, brighter things. Because she was able to cope with what was happening, she was also able to offer him what he needed to surpass his disorder.
Another potential solution is to connect with the loved ones of others struggling with the same problem or similar psychological disorders. It doesn’t have to be just partners either. You can talk to friends and families, share experiences and learn about new ways to help the ailing person better.
This is a journey for everyone involved, and you need to possess adequate equipment for it.
It might get really tricky at times, but if you’re devoted to your partner, you will stand by them no matter what. Just remember to analyze how they are expressing their psychological disorders towards you as well. If they choose to do it in a toxic way, it might be time to reconsider your options after all.
Don’t risk your own well-being for someone who isn’t ready to face the challenge ahead in a mature and responsible way.
Whether or not this relationship is actually doomed to fail depends on both of you equally. On the one hand, you need to define and understand the situation, and then subsequently cope with it so that you can provide your loved one with the support and assistance they need.
And they will need a lot of it, but if you believe in your love, you will manage to help.
On the other hand, the outcome is also heavily reliant on how your partner expresses their disorder and what outlets he or she finds for it. If they choose to reflect this on you in a toxic and damaging manner, all the fight and ambition in the world won’t be enough to make things work.
It’s important to be there for them, but don’t put yourself at risk for it.
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