Kind people are some of the most beautiful and interesting souls. Unfortunately, they’re not as happy as they may seem.

I know several kind people who are giving and patient. When I look at them I see a smile, a soft voice, and quiet demeanor – it seems they are happy.

I suppose doing things for others and always being there makes a happy human, huh. Well, I’m not so sure about that, to tell you the truth.

Happy humans, I mean truly contented individuals aren’t always the giving kind. It seems the world is a little backward in that area. Kind people are deeply flawed, believe it or not, well, at least for the most part. What? You seem shocked. Well, let me explain to you why kind people fail to be happy.

Happiness is a many-layered emotion, filled with complicated aspects.

Kind people are not always angels who have fallen to earth to do good will. They have multifaceted personalities like the rest of us. Whether you are kind or more on the self-absorbed side, there are variances about you that determine whether or not you are truly happy.

They Give

Kind people give. The thing is, they tend to give when they are already stretched to their limits. Sometimes, they can even find themselves in a bad predicament by giving too much and never expecting anything in return.

They are generally the ones who do not barter or trade-handing out with no hope of return. While their hearts may be full at the moment, in long term, they desire someone to give to them in the same amount.

They have high expectations

Kind people expect the best out of those around them. As they help and donate their time, they see the world as being on the same charitable with level.

Unfortunately, the world is not always as giving as those who give to it. People who are kind have high expectations that rarely get fulfilled by others. This can make some people feel hopeless in their good deeds.

They work too hard

People who are giving tend to work harder than those who are not. When help is needed, kind individuals are always ready to jump right in and get the job done. They often suffer from lack of sleep, rest and even nutrition in order to make others happy. Good people make sacrifices more often.

They are limited

There is only so much a kind person can contribute to society. They may become too emotionally involved in the fact that their resources do not match their ability to help.

This is one of the worst feelings in the world to them. Instead of giving up, however, they tend to work even harder and brood in their failings to reach their own set goals. They just always wish they could help more.

Kind people are intelligent

You know what they say about smart people, right? Intelligence is often accompanied by depression.



Most generous individuals are intelligent but also suffer from sadness as a result of their brain power. When they are not working to help others, they are sometimes spending time thinking too much about the world’s problems.

They are analytical and critical, but only in introspection. Sometimes they feel as if they are never good enough.

But take heart! Kindness has its rewards!

It’s not all about doom and gloom, as the end game of being kind. Being nice to others has an emotional reward beyond self-criticism and defeat. Each time someone has a new lease on life given by a kind person the world takes a step in the right direction.

If you are a kind person and feel like you have failed, just remember. Even action has a reaction, ripples are moving across the world as we speak. You could be that one person who creates huge waves, making changes and improving life as we know it.

Keep up the good work!

Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

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This Post Has 12 Comments

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    Robin Ahmed

    Man, publishing articles like this are so irresponsible. As it suggests people not be kind, kindness is a trait of losers, snowflake etc..

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      Life Advancer

      The article doesn’t suggest anything like that. It just talks about the struggles of kind people. It seems that you didn’t read it carefully – at the end, the article actually encourages people to be kinder.

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        Robin Ahmed

        Life Advancer I got the point the article was trying to make. Earnestly I agree and I love your page. I might have come across abrupt, I guess the point I was trying to make is that in today’s world the masses are afraid which easily leads to hatred. And men(human) being men want to prove themselves, may misinterpret your message. Majority are dumb as….HOPE

        1. Sherrie H.
          Sherrie H.

          Robin,

          It is never easy being the kind-hearted person, but it pays off in the end. 🙂

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    James Locke

    I thought it was very accurate. Most of the time if I can make someone else’s life a little bit easier when they’re struggling or make someone else happy when they are hurting, it’s worth doing without some . In the end I feel better about myself and that’s worth more than money or things.

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    Lauren

    I absolutely loved your article!! A different perspective for sure, but so very, very true for many. I completely “get it”! You are not saying “do not be kind”, as a matter of fact – I don’t think you can tell a truly “kind” person to “stop” being the “kind” person they are – it just is the way they are – same way you cannot tell a “frugal”(selfish) person to stop his/her selfish ways and give more, etc – it is part of who they are. Problems can arise though, when your compassion to help is so strong – you do tend to give more, and yes, you “think” that all people also think in that same way – they do NOT. I have a passion for animals (as well as helping people) – I volunteer, I give to many shelters along with charity events, donations, etc. It is a strong compassionate feeling, and whatever you do – is never enough – you cannot save or help all of the animals (people) – you feel helpless and sad because of it. I have, at times, spent more money than I should have or even had at the time – hence the credit card!! So, yes I understand completely – YOU hit the “nail on the head” with this article!! Great job!!! PS Not trying, going to, or change – I like “me” this way and all things considered, it makes me happy!!!

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    Dr.Madara

    Because they always care what others feel .. that is simply why the will never be truly happy

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    Froilan R Villaruel

    I really like your article because it truly shows the value of sacrifice and risk involves. Kindness is not sustainable without taking first the essential elements – hope, willingness and desire for change. Our action to give life to kindness for others is just an extension because of our good deeds to ourselves – the melting pot and first recipient of success. And if that is the case, kindness should not be confined only to ourselves otherwise, we can possibly be influenced at a certain degree by self love. No matter how painful the risk and sacrifice involves, the essential elements should freely propel for the sake of meaningful change.

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    Peter C Mead

    Says who? Full of generalities.

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    Siddhartha

    I will its one hundred percent true… Honestly mam only few can relate to this. Other don’t even think about it. Very well written.

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    Ram

    Very well said. True!!!

  9. Anna L.
    Anna L.

    The very topic of this article is quite general and speculative, isn’t it? That’s why it contains ‘generalities’, as you call them. The author expressed her opinion on the matter, so why don’t you express yours as well if you don’t agree with her?

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