Don't enter the new year experiencing the post-holiday blues. The lights and trees may be gone, but the joy could still be there. January, after all, is the first month of the year, and a chance for a clean slate, an opportunity to embrace change--mentally and physically. Embrace this possibility and make 2020 the beginning of a better you. One new step at…
There are unhealthy powerplay habits that happen in relationships. They’re called demand-withdrawal patterns. This has become a serious problem. There are various reasons why marriages don’t work. One of those reasons is something called the demand-withdrawal pattern. This strange dynamic reduces each person to a role that rarely changes. Who’s demanding and who’s withdrawing? The demanding person in the relationship is usually the…
When you’re younger, you don’t put much thought into how life is going to be in your 80s or 90s. No, those years don’t really pass through your mind. When you’re younger, you’re looking for pleasure, building on your dreams, even when they’re extreme. But the sad part about this is that everyone forgets how life is short. We completely forget that one…
Maybe you’re not ready for marriage. No matter how much you love each other, it just might be too soon. Marriage is a serious step. It requires dedication and communication skills that most people don’ t have. That is why there are so many divorces. It’s truly a sad situation when marriages fall apart because marriage was designed to bring two people together…
You raise them, teach them, and give them love, and then suddenly, they grow up into adults and become estranged children. What happened? The pain of watching your children, one by one, leave the nest is a hurt that I cannot describe. I have three boys, and one is already moved away. I only see him a few times a year, and it’s…
To cheat once is commonly seen as a mistake. But chronic cheaters never really stop cheating. But you can spot them if you try. I’ve been on both sides of this coin. I’ve cheated and I have been cheated on by others. If I were to go back in time, it would be difficult to sort all the situations. But I do know…
If you’re feeling inferior, I’ve been there, I have an idea what that feels like. But, it’s time to stop and listen. Do you want me to be blunt? Feeling inferior will kill your positive self-esteem. Do you want to know why? Well, sitting around comparing yourself with others is a never-ending cycle. Here’s the hard cold truth. There will always be someone…
What does the workplace need? The emphasis doesn't lie with more work or harder work. The point is we need team building activities. We’ve all heard stories about people who can’t stand co-workers who clock in and clock out every day hardly talking to anyone unless they absolutely need to. As a fellow employee, this can become very challenging. This means workload will…
Emotional manipulation can also be seen as negging. There are many examples of negging which can damage your self-esteem. It seems there’s never a shortage of manipulative behavior. Although people are basically good, they are also selfish because not all people who use manipulative tactics have a personality or mental disorder. Some just want to get the upper hand. There are many examples…
We hear about men cheating all the time, but we don’t hear as much about why women cheat. I think that's very odd. It’s true, we hear so many stories about men and how they cheat on their loving wives. So many of us women even start calling men “dogs” and labeling them all as cheaters. But to be fair, there are probably…