5 Things You Should Never Share with Others and Why

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Do you keep secrets or do you share with others every single detail of your life?

Keeping secrets is never usually advised, as it keeps issues in that can damage your emotional wellbeing.

However, there are some key things that you should never share with others and are best to keep to yourself. Sometimes, keeping things safe can also be helpful in creating success.

1. Your Goals

Keeping your goals private can actually make you more likely to achieve them. Studies on goal setting have shown that telling people your goals and gaining praise for setting them can make your brain produce the endorphins that it would have had you achieved the goal. This makes you feel as though you have already achieved something, so you don’t work as hard in the long run to meet your goal.

2. Your Personal Life

Your personal life is none of anyone else’s business, and telling others about things you get up to can open you to criticism and judgment. The choices you make in your life should be your own concern, as this will keep you from the unnecessary opinions of others, which can be harsh and demotivating.

Keep certain aspects of your life a mystery and don’t share with others every detail of your relationship and personal life. It will make you come across as a much classier and worthy of a lot more respects than those who run their mouth about all of their bad habits.

3. Your Family Drama

All families have drama; it’s a cross that every family has to bear. Yet, it is not something that you should be telling the world. Obviously, if there is something very wrong, telling close friends and partners can help to lighten the load and keep you supported.

Telling the whole world, however, can be disrespectful to those involved, and open your family to judgment. It is always best to solve your issues privately and properly with your family and the ones you love.

4. Courageous and Good Deeds

Deliberately sharing your charitable deeds with others can very easily come across as arrogant and self-serving, and this should be avoided at all costs. It shouldn’t be a secret that you help those who are less fortunate, but it also shouldn’t be global news either.

The same goes for acts of bravery. We face challenges every day and your achievements in these challenges should be rewarded appropriately.

Looking for praise and appreciation makes you seem big headed. Courageous acts are for others to deem courageous, otherwise, they are not all that courageous.

5. Material Belongings

Everyone likes to have nice things, and if we could we would have all of the nice things possible, but not everyone likes to hear about all of the things you have been treating yourself with. Jealousy is an ugly color on most people, but arrogance is even uglier.

Keeping your material gains to yourself allows you to make conversation about much more pleasant things that won’t spark up the green-eyed monster in others, and you’ll be deemed a much more modest and likable person by the people around you.



By Francesca F.



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93 Comments

  1. Carlin Covello November 8, 2016 at 8:14 pm - Reply

    not always true if you have come from an abusive family

  2. Jennifer Travis Sattler November 8, 2016 at 10:07 pm - Reply

    But good food for thought if you are coming from an emotionally healthy place.❤

  3. Marvin Winston March 24, 2017 at 3:00 pm - Reply

    Keep your clothes on when the cameras rollin and keep it shut on facebook…oh wait too late…damn!

  4. Aaron Mullen March 24, 2017 at 1:05 pm - Reply

    Don’t be so paranoid not everyone is as evil as the media makes them out to be.

  5. Anurag Bansal March 24, 2017 at 1:07 pm - Reply

    Exactly

  6. Lydia Trite March 24, 2017 at 1:11 pm - Reply

    Haha…the media!! Now that’s funny!!

  7. Mark Bartnick March 24, 2017 at 1:14 pm - Reply

    Sometimes you have to give out info to get some back. People will open up to you if you share your most intimate thoughts.

  8. Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 1:20 pm - Reply

    Sounds like we’re supposed to talk about other people and TV shows?

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 1:25 pm - Reply

      Yup sounds just about right. So what’s your favourite TV show?

    • Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 1:26 pm - Reply

      I don’t watch television 🙂 I got nothing to talk about 🙁

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 1:27 pm - Reply

      Oh dear, there are still other people to talk about

    • Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 1:29 pm - Reply

      No TV or movies eliminates celebrity gossip, and I can’t stand politics. But I’ve got big goals, oh wait, that’s off limits. 😀

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 1:51 pm - Reply

      Ouch so is there no hope whatsoever?

    • Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 1:53 pm - Reply

      I’m doomed.

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 1:59 pm - Reply

      Aren’t we all?

    • Mark Sherman March 24, 2017 at 1:59 pm - Reply

      My turtle crawled a full meter yesterday.

    • Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 2:00 pm - Reply

      Mark Sherman Mine only went half of a meter. Seems to me like you’re bragging. You might need to re-read the list of off-limits.

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 2:06 pm - Reply

      Yeah talking about turtles in general is allowed as long as they’re not in personal possession of any who take part in the debate and if they’re not a part of their secretive life

    • Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 2:07 pm - Reply

      I never read the fine print.

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 2:18 pm - Reply

      Getting personal there, fine print can be boring although sometimes it’s very important.

    • Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 2:20 pm - Reply

      Crap. I’ll work on it.

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 2:23 pm - Reply

      Personal again :p that’s the second strike, you’re a rule breaker – this is the part where you’re being judged because you didn’t play by the rules, such a shame, this could really be something special. 😉

    • Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 2:33 pm - Reply

      Rats. My family would help me out with that if they weren’t arguing all the time. Okay, that won’t work. Can I ask Beyonce for assistance? Maybe I shouldn’t acknowledge that I need help. Umm. I digging myself a big hole of replies. Lukasz, thanks for your insight. But please don’t tell people about your above average perception abilities.

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 2:43 pm - Reply

      People can find out by themselves only if they want to find out, otherwise it will probably be very pointless even thinking of telling others about these above average abilities, they’re not a secret although not everyone can see them

    • Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 2:44 pm - Reply

      True dat.

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 2:49 pm - Reply

      Dat is true idd 🙂

    • Lukasz Kulesza March 24, 2017 at 10:13 pm - Reply

      The size of the hole doesn’t matter it’s whether one can sufficiently fill it in with as many replies as needed. Here it is then : maybe it’s time for a less argumentative family, you can ask Beyonce for help, self acknowledgement is very important one needs to know if they need help so others can actually help them, hope this answers your questions, feel free to ask as many as you can 🙂

    • Vonda Gee March 24, 2017 at 10:58 pm - Reply

      This article is about what now?! Asking beyonce for help? Lolololol why would beyonce want to help someone because they asked……that’s odd. How is it even possible for a conversation to interesting, if it’s tailored. Watching tv and discussing what you see on it is like so 1980s as everyone doesn’t necessarily watch tv. In regards to Lukasz last sentence…..the thing about asking for help, especially when it comes to those that you refer to as close or a friend…..they should know when their pal or loved one needs help. It’s one thing to reach out to someone and ask a favor, but really needing help should be something that those that love and care for you can readily see. So many people settle for half assness from others that they settle for however people claiming to love them treat them.

  9. Patricia Grace March 24, 2017 at 1:27 pm - Reply

    Funny but just these are the issues people most often talk about when they meet

  10. Caryn Owen March 24, 2017 at 1:40 pm - Reply

    I like to talk about my personal life. It helps me weed out who is really a friend. Who cares what people think 🙂

  11. Melissa Harris March 24, 2017 at 1:43 pm - Reply

    KreeMyer I feel like i couldn’t even keep these things a secret cos you’d find out anyway

    • Kree Myer March 24, 2017 at 1:47 pm - Reply

      Damn right I would. This article offers bad advice-keep your private life private pfft how ridiculous.

    • Melissa Harris March 24, 2017 at 1:48 pm - Reply

      I have tried but u always find a way through

    • Kree Myer March 24, 2017 at 1:49 pm - Reply

      Ive told you numerous times, it’s because god wants me to know things. I don’t even have to go looking, knowledge just falls into my lap.

    • Melissa Harris March 24, 2017 at 1:50 pm - Reply

      Haha well where was God when u didn’t know about Ed for weeks?

    • Kree Myer March 24, 2017 at 1:52 pm - Reply

      God and I were both on holidays. It was over the Christmas holiday break and that’s his sons birthday so it’s expected he would of been on REC Leave. Duh

    • Melissa Harris March 24, 2017 at 1:52 pm - Reply

      It wasn’t even in the same year…not a good enough excuse

    • Kree Myer March 24, 2017 at 1:53 pm - Reply

      It was close enough.

    • Melissa Harris March 24, 2017 at 1:54 pm - Reply

      There’s no rest for the wicked

    • Kree Myer March 24, 2017 at 1:55 pm - Reply

      But I’m not wicked so therefore I need rest from my detective duties.

    • Melissa Harris March 24, 2017 at 1:56 pm - Reply

      Oh that’s right…your heart is pure

    • Kree Myer March 24, 2017 at 1:57 pm - Reply

      Pure as an angel.

    • Melissa Harris March 24, 2017 at 1:58 pm - Reply

      Me too…thats why we’re besties

  12. Kyle J Tantardini March 24, 2017 at 1:46 pm - Reply

    Yeah i share 3 out of 5. And i am better for it.

  13. John Eppes March 24, 2017 at 2:01 pm - Reply

    Excellent advice

  14. Nathaniel R-Two Racine March 24, 2017 at 2:38 pm - Reply

    Sharing secrets is good for you internally however, you shouldn’t ever share anything about your life

  15. Diane Walton March 24, 2017 at 2:43 pm - Reply

    I disagree with all of these. The more you share the more you connect with people.

    • Ken Martindale March 25, 2017 at 12:10 am - Reply

      Spot on Dianne…totally agree,
      What a shallow world of paranoid droids we would be

  16. Sofie Denruyter March 24, 2017 at 2:44 pm - Reply

    Well, Yes, I learned that too, and it is true and very frustrating when people judge you and call you names that you’re not! So, keep quit is a nice way to protect you from false stories that blame you and are caused by misunderstanding! If after that, you still hear stories, you know it is completely false and caused by jalousy

    • Vonda Gee March 24, 2017 at 11:02 pm - Reply

      A lot ofnthe time saying random nonsense will be translated into more nonsense. It unbelievable how thirsty some folk are for information that’s ghetto and “scandalous”

  17. Ralph Schneider March 24, 2017 at 3:10 pm - Reply

    “The secret of being a bore is to tell everything.” – Voltaire

  18. Martin Pawar March 24, 2017 at 3:42 pm - Reply

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  19. Sheri Monroe March 24, 2017 at 3:44 pm - Reply

    The fact is no one cares about your dreams or problems unless their a shrink. Keep your business to yourself.

  20. Shaun Mckay March 24, 2017 at 4:29 pm - Reply

    If you cant share these things with people then you are around the wrong people

  21. John Garaventa March 24, 2017 at 6:58 pm - Reply

    Woops

  22. Michelle Campbell Torcicollo March 24, 2017 at 7:27 pm - Reply

    In todays world i keep it all to myself.

  23. Kristi Galbraith March 24, 2017 at 7:49 pm - Reply

    I share all of these things, typically with people I consider friends. It’s part of my job also. I have to facilitate and maintain trust with customers. Sometimes you can’t always redirect a conversation to something else. Naturally, you don’t have to tell everyone everything. But if someone is going to judge me, I’d rather it be based on an element of truth, rather than mistrust me for being overly secretive.

  24. Christian Spangenberger March 24, 2017 at 8:22 pm - Reply

    Totally disagree with number 1! From personal and also from my clients experience I can for sure say that talking about your goal often keeps you accountable and highly motivated!

  25. Dee Ann March 24, 2017 at 8:30 pm - Reply

    What exactly should I talk about? Just keep having shallow frustrating conversations and then have a psychologist tell me that I need to get people to talk to?

  26. Cameron Johnston March 24, 2017 at 8:51 pm - Reply

    True

  27. Jami Salama March 24, 2017 at 10:17 pm - Reply

    Some of them are very debatable. Depends on whom you’re sharing with.

  28. Blanca Rangel March 24, 2017 at 11:35 pm - Reply

    Your period hahahahaha

  29. Ken Martindale March 25, 2017 at 12:08 am - Reply

    After reading this list it seems that being a shallow shell of a person is the most applicable option….not for me thanks

  30. Julia Glassy March 25, 2017 at 12:11 am - Reply

    A little mystery goes a long way.

  31. Pan Muraell March 25, 2017 at 12:45 am - Reply

    tooth brush, dildo, partner,passwords, pin numbers. secrets, just for a start.

  32. Rob Lectka March 25, 2017 at 12:56 am - Reply

    Why do I see pictures with women exhibiting the be quiet symbol so often. It that some kind of secret code. Sure looks like one.

  33. Trevor Hollis March 25, 2017 at 1:57 am - Reply

    Put all these together and then you pretty much have the weather to talk about lol

  34. Floyd Miller March 25, 2017 at 3:10 am - Reply

    So everyone should keep to themselves and never have a meaningful relationship with anyone.

  35. Michelle Reynolds March 25, 2017 at 3:47 am - Reply

    Lost me with #2 *eyeroll*

  36. Yael Wijnauf March 25, 2017 at 4:14 am - Reply

    I disagree. If you can’t talk about those things with people, that’s because they’re not for you

  37. Santanu Borah March 25, 2017 at 6:10 am - Reply

    Do the so called “endorphin” release even if I tell myself about the goals, because I often get much excited about achieving the goal before achieving it in real??

  38. Moranda Relaford March 25, 2017 at 6:39 am - Reply

    So basically, never talk. have no friends.

  39. Bianca Rocha March 25, 2017 at 6:58 am - Reply

    Yeaaah, I don’t agree. I believe if you want to gain someone’s trust and grow an actual meaningful friendship you should share personal things about yourself. Also it shouldn’t matter what anyone thinks
    about your life and decisions. Real friends will listen, and give advice if asked for it.

    • Jessica Muehlauer March 25, 2017 at 7:26 am - Reply

      couldnt have said it better!

    • Bianca Rocha March 25, 2017 at 8:54 am - Reply

      Thank you. I use to be that way and well I never was able to even have good conversations since that makes you seem cold and stand offish. So I started speaking more about personal experiences and from the heart and was able to connect more with people.

    • Christian Spangenberger March 25, 2017 at 9:04 pm - Reply

      100% agreed!!

  40. Rebecca De Louise March 25, 2017 at 10:02 am - Reply

    Well, that about covers everything people talk about, especially when get to know eachother….I have no friends for that reason. You can’t talk about anything anymore…past, present and future…it all turns and ends up being like ammo…using your info against you, attitudes, opinions, form…then, friendship are dead…crushed by too much information…its best for me to keep to myself….say nothing and involve no one…its the only way…and this confirms it…

  41. Tony Zito March 25, 2017 at 1:30 pm - Reply

    Balance between the retention of these life factors and the divulgence of them and to whom one divulges when they choose to matters. It is healthy to talk through things. In many cases the need for a therapist and psycho-therapy / talk therapy are in order, but instead we chit chat because we’re social but then we wonder what’s wrong.. our friends, family, barrista, co-workers, etc are not alwaya going to happen to be therapists.. ready, willing, or even capable of handling our heavy details.. its better to go and seek the right person, time, and place to divulge the heavy stuff..

  42. Jeremy Alan Willcox March 25, 2017 at 4:38 pm - Reply

    Reading between the lines: don’t go out, don’t make new friends; just sit in your home when not working and read our crap on the internet.

  43. Edna Abing March 25, 2017 at 6:31 pm - Reply

    Action speaks louder than words.

  44. Steven Napoletan March 26, 2017 at 12:58 am - Reply

    This just goes to show that in the words of Robert Palmer, “It Takes Every Kind Of People.” So much for constructing the proverbial all encompassing box. Personally, I seem to not necessarily need to “share” a lot about me. … Facebook belies that fact huh?

  45. Laurel Gray March 26, 2017 at 7:29 am - Reply

    Why? We are all human. Not telling people these things will somehow make you more respected?

  46. Rica Penilla Oracion August 13, 2017 at 12:20 pm - Reply

    Oahhh

  47. Caroline Moses August 13, 2017 at 12:31 pm - Reply

    Totally agree 100%

  48. Marianne Isaacs August 13, 2017 at 1:06 pm - Reply

    Mmmmmm how interesting can the weather be ? This us a recipe for lonely isolation .

  49. Dee Dre August 13, 2017 at 1:06 pm - Reply

    Totally disagree 100%

  50. Shannon Rearick August 13, 2017 at 1:07 pm - Reply

    I agree. Sharing too much allows everyone in your business.

  51. Cade Foster August 13, 2017 at 2:24 pm - Reply

    Selfishness is not a good recipe for friendships – it only distances one from the other and it falls into discomfort and untruthful relationships.

  52. Amanda Errington August 13, 2017 at 4:36 pm - Reply

    Basically share nothing then Who writes this nonsense. I personally think that a world without sharing is sad. What’s left to chat about?

  53. Cocks John August 13, 2017 at 9:30 pm - Reply

    what go through life constantly worrying about what you say and others reactions . no thanks , nothing to hide , nothing to prove . let others have that problem

  54. Damian Donohue August 14, 2017 at 12:01 pm - Reply

    A lot of people I know act and coverse like it’s a soap opera, a scene from from days of our lives or something like that, you don’t need to air the dirty laundry of your life to the world, and they way you act and coverse create either a positive or negative atmosphere about your self, so not that I really don’t care or have any thing to prove, just wish to give positive vibes and no ammunition for any thing negative, so the points outlined are positive considerations what not to disclose, smile, be happy, care and love each other.

  55. Lou October 15, 2017 at 11:28 pm - Reply

    Trust me this makes so much sense it’s untrue!! I wish so many times I had kept my mouth shut and not told my business to others, everyone is not your friend, be your own best friend, the relationships that seem to work best are the ones that don’t allow outside influences, people don’t need to know every aspect of your life

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