In case you’re wondering if your ex secretly wants you back in their life, there are ways to tell. There will be signs that point toward a desire to reconnect.
So, the relationship is over, but you feel like your ex secretly wants you back. How do you know this for sure? Well, there are little signs that reveal their true intentions. It’s not hard to figure out what they want.
What Are the Signs Your Ex Secretly Wants You Back?
Breaking up isn’t easy, and you usually feel like there is a good enough reason to make this decision. However, sometimes relationships can be rekindled and built into much stronger unions. And then again, sometimes, this is not the case. So how do you know if your ex-partner is even interested?
There are signs that your ex secretly wants you back, even if they don’t come out and say it. Let’s look at a few of these indicators.
1. They talk about memories
When you see your ex or talk to them on the phone, do they reminisce about old times? If so, they may secretly want to plant these images from the past into your head. And why would they do this? Maybe they want to rekindle your relationship.
While this is not a certainty, it is usually the case. Pay close attention to how often this happens. Also, pay attention to the words they use and expressions when talking to you.
2. They confide in you
Does your ex-partner confide in you about their life or problems? This could be a sign that they crave your presence. When you take the time to give your ex-partner advice, they get a chance to hear your voice talking kindly to them and providing comfort.
Your ex may have appreciated this type of comfort when you were together. Maybe they missed the trust and concern you once showed for them, and so they reached out.
3. Text you randomly
Have you noticed how your ex randomly sends texts? This could be an indicator that they secretly want you back in their lives. Usually, the texts start with “How are you?” or just a simple, “Hey!”
When someone has no interest, but still needs to text you about an issue, they don’t usually greet you with kindness, especially when they are a former partner. Pay attention to this.
4. Give you compliments
Here’s an interesting thing I’ve personally noticed in my life. If they compliment you out of the blue, then it may be a sign that your ex secretly wants you back. They know things they can say to make you feel certain ways, and this is from obvious experience.
And yes, it can be manipulative, to be honest. So, has your ex-partner been telling you that your hair looks nice, or thinks you look pretty? This is sometimes a subtle way of winning you back to them.
5. Go out of their way to see you
Maybe your ex secretly wants you back if they go out of their way to see you. Maybe they will show up in places they never really like to go or miss work just to run into you somewhere. Your ex may hate shopping but suddenly show up during your shopping trip with friends.
When this happens, maybe you should figure out how they knew where you were going to be. Then you might consider why they are there. Do they want you back in their lives?
6. Offer to help you
Have you noticed that when your ex doesn’t seem interested in you, they never have time to help? If they suddenly have all the time in the world to help you, that’s a good indicator that they may secretly want you back. I know it sounds a bit silly, but look at this logically.
If nothing else, they are probably wanting to help for selfish reasons if this isn’t in their character otherwise.
7. Inquire about your love life
It’s not healthy to share details about your love life with your ex-partner. I just wanted to put that out there before I continued with this one. But, if your ex is inquiring about your love life, then that’s a big indicator that they are still interested in you, whether you share information or not.
While this is not always true, it’s something you should take into consideration.
8. Talk about how they’ve changed
Is your ex constantly talking about how they’ve improved themselves? Are they telling you about how they’ve changed since you were together? If so, this could be a sign that they are trying to win you over with their self-improvement and achievements, trying to prove that they are different people. And it could also mean your ex secretly wants you back.
9. They are playful around you
While this may be uncomfortable to experience, when your ex is playful around you, it could mean they want you back in their life. If they poke fun at you or playfully wink, it could just be a part of their personality. But it could also mean they are still interested in you.
There are subtle ways to tell the difference. For one, if they didn’t do this before, their mind has changed about you over time, and they may miss you.
10. They still talk to your friends and family
Does your ex-partner still talk to your family or your friends? If so, they could want you back. Most times, when you end a relationship, your partner no longer talks to your family or friends. Although this isn’t always true, it’s true for the majority.
Pay attention to how often your ex spends time with your family. It could be that they never really got over you. Could it be that they want to try again?
What do you think?
I can tell you from personal experience that these indicators are spot on. If your ex is showing any of these indicators, you might want to have a conversation with them to understand their true intentions. If you want to give it another shot, this could be good news. If not, then there needs to be an understanding between the both of you that the relationship is indeed over.
Having these conversations is never easy. If both of you aren’t on the same page, then misunderstandings could lead to more trouble than you want to deal with. So, please get this out in the open and conclude.
I wish you luck with this situation and send blessings to all.
