Kind-hearted people are magnets for toxic ones. There are reasons why bad people are drawn to those who try to live a moral life.
I used to be kind-hearted, going out of my way to help others, forgiving easily and loving hard.
But I’m re-evaluating my standpoint. Maybe it’s time I brought the hammer down on toxic people! They have all but made me feel like I’m losing my mind. I am torn between low and high self-esteem because of the pulling and tugging of their manipulative forces. God, I hate shitty people.
Are they toxic or just your run-of-the-mill BAD person?
So, I guess toxic has its own definition, but I find that most of the negative people that are drawn to me, tend to fit the toxic definition. No matter what category they technically fit into, they both love to take advantage of kind-hearted people. They lie, steal and cheat good moral men and women while pretending that nothing ever happened. They are greedy, manipulative and cruel. There is nothing they won’t do to make a fast buck or win more followers. It’s sickening.
Curious about why kind-hearted people attract such villains? There are few reasons. But wait! I’m not going to tell you in a way that you can take control over the situation. Let me advise you of what you can do to avoid such nonsense and start a healthy habit of taking out the trash.
Your tolerance is too high.
Kind-hearted people tend to tolerate rude and obnoxious people, in hopes that these people will see the light and change. I’ve had friends, lovers, and family members who all fit this bill. I struggled constantly to see the good side of some dark personalities.
Believe it or not, this very act of kindness got me deeper into their manipulative games. I was trapped, and so, I became a victim through my tolerance. Unfortunately, when tolerating certain behaviors, you may not realize you’re trapped until you’re so involved that it’s almost impossible to get out.
You seek companionship when vulnerable.
Do not, I repeat, do not seek new friendships when you feel vulnerable. It’s just not the best time to accentuate your life with new people. First off, your judgment will be off due to whatever made your vulnerable, whether it was a breakup, death or loss of a job – it doesn’t matter what happened, because either way, it leaves you vulnerable.
Bad people gravitate toward weak people because it’s easier to con them. It’s so much easier to steal from someone who is suffering because their mind is not in tip top shape. They are presently, unable to take charge and fortify their minds – they are also not paying full attention to their surroundings. It’s a low thing to do, but toxic individuals will rush in, while you are unaware, and victimize your life.
You are too open about your life.
When you have a good heart, you want to share things with people. I don’t mean share possessions, I mean sharing details about your life. As any other human being, you will have problems and events that have an impact on your life, and this will make you want to tell someone.
You can’t tell everyone your business. Some people don’t listen for your benefit, they listen to have gossip to spread. They also listen to acquire information to use against you. Be careful who you vent to, this could be dangerous in more ways than one.
You accept inconsistencies.
Words don’t always match actions, as most of us human beings know by now, and this is why inconsistencies happen. When it comes to negative people, their words often say good things and their actions rarely follow through. Kind-hearted people are so trusting that they believe words before they see the actions. When this happens, they set themselves up for failure.
Do your friends say they care, but yet act like they don’t? Does your family disrespect you in front of others and then brag about your tight-knit bond as a unit? If this happens to you, then you understand a prime example of why toxic people are drawn to good ones. If you trust a bad person, their actions will continue to oppose their kind words – and unfortunately, you will keep believing.
Feeling used yet? If so, then do something about it! Toughen up!
It’s time to get a grip on your life, strengthen your reserves and evaluate your acquaintances. There are ways to keep the toxic people at bay. If you are a kind-hearted person, then it’s time you gave your unadulterated love to only a select few. I’m not saying be unkind, I just want you to create better boundaries in your life.
Put up the wall, just leave a small door for the ones who treat your right. It’s just smart thinking, my dear.
By Sherrie S.
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