Introverts have a bad reputation when it comes to relationships and friendships. If you are dating an introvert, there are some things you should know.
Introverts are often seen as shy and unsure of themselves, making them difficult to develop a relationship with, when in reality they are usually the opposite.
The term ‘introvert’ refers to someone who is not as outgoing or outlandish in social situations and they usually tend to prefer closer social situations with those they feel comfortable around.
To some, this may seem as though they are antisocial or loners, but they can be some of the most interesting and meaningful partners in a relationship, whether it be a relationship or simply a friendship.
Before dating an introvert, however, here are a few things that you should know, and maybe keep in mind.
1. They don’t always need to talk
Introverts appreciate and even look for time to themselves. They may not feel the need to be in constant contact with you at all hours of the day. This is not something that you need to take to heart, but simply allow them to do. It’s not that they don’t love you or want to talk to you, but introverts enjoy simply having some space and time alone.
Take the opportunity to enjoy time to yourself, also, it will give you the opportunity to do things that you can talk about when you do have conversations, rather than meaningless chit-chat.
It will make the time you spend together and the conversations that you have much more meaningful and relevant rather than trying to fill the silence with the need to be in contact 24/7.
2. When they do talk, they’ll make an effort to make it meaningful
Introverts enjoy the conversation as much as extroverts, but they prefer a different type. Meaningless chit-chat means nothing to them and they won’t put in as much effort as they will with a conversation that is meaningful and they find interesting.
If you are dating an introvert and want to get to know them better, ask them what their interests are and get them talking. Even though they are introverts, they’ll pass for extroverts when you find the right topic. Find what you have in common and make an effort to build conversations and activities around it, you won’t regret it.
Once you are dating an introvert, the way they converse with you and the meaning behind conversations is part of the way that they show their interest and love.
3. The best-laid plans are destined to succeed
Introverts are not the best at doing things on a spontaneous basis. Creating a plan and sticking to it can really help to ensure that you go out and do things together. Introverts may tend to like staying in, but enjoy going out to the right activities.
Create plans around each other’s’ interests to make them feel more comfortable and cut out the awkwardness of having to make on the spot decisions about what to do next. Introverted partners want to spend times with you and do interesting things, but plans always work out better to spend time together.
4. Don’t be afraid to initiate
Introverts may not always be as self-assured when trying to initiate intimacy and physical contact. They tend not to be as confident when initiating intimacy, but they will give you little signs to let you know to make the next move. Look out for ear nibbling and little neck kisses, it may mean that they want some attention from you.
The more you get to know your partner, the better you will be able to recognize the signs. When dating an introvert, make sure in the early stages of the relationship that you are both comfortable and it feels right for the both of you.
5. They are loyal to a fault
Introverts are intensely loyal. Their reserved nature means that they don’t have as many close or personal relationships as someone who is more outgoing and extroverted. So they tend to hold the ones they do have close to their heart. Not only are introverts loyal, but they are very loving and caring.
They will protect and love you with all that they have, making them one of the best partners to have in a relationship.
Although it can be difficult to get close to an introvert at the beginning of a relationship, making the effort to get to know the other person and consider how they progress and form relationships.
By giving them the space they need and appreciating your partner’s needs and feelings, your relationship with an introvert could be one of the best you’ve ever had.
If you have never had an experience of dating an introvert before, hopefully, this article has helped to open your eyes and show you just how great and how loving an introvert can be within relationships.
By Francesca F.
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