5 Things You Should Never Share with Others and Why

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Do you keep secrets or do you share with others every single detail of your life?

Keeping secrets is never usually advised, as it keeps issues in that can damage your emotional wellbeing.

However, there are some key things that you should never share with others and are best to keep to yourself. Sometimes, keeping things safe can also be helpful in creating success.

1. Your Goals

Keeping your goals private can actually make you more likely to achieve them. Studies on goal setting have shown that telling people your goals and gaining praise for setting them can make your brain produce the endorphins that it would have had you achieved the goal. This makes you feel as though you have already achieved something, so you don’t work as hard in the long run to meet your goal.

2. Your Personal Life

Your personal life is none of anyone else’s business, and telling others about things you get up to can open you to criticism and judgment. The choices you make in your life should be your own concern, as this will keep you from the unnecessary opinions of others, which can be harsh and demotivating.

Keep certain aspects of your life a mystery and don’t share with others every detail of your relationship and personal life. It will make you come across as a much classier and worthy of a lot more respects than those who run their mouth about all of their bad habits.

3. Your Family Drama

All families have drama; it’s a cross that every family has to bear. Yet, it is not something that you should be telling the world. Obviously, if there is something very wrong, telling close friends and partners can help to lighten the load and keep you supported.

Telling the whole world, however, can be disrespectful to those involved, and open your family to judgment. It is always best to solve your issues privately and properly with your family and the ones you love.

4. Courageous and Good Deeds

Deliberately sharing your charitable deeds with others can very easily come across as arrogant and self-serving, and this should be avoided at all costs. It shouldn’t be a secret that you help those who are less fortunate, but it also shouldn’t be global news either.

The same goes for acts of bravery. We face challenges every day and your achievements in these challenges should be rewarded appropriately.

Looking for praise and appreciation makes you seem big headed. Courageous acts are for others to deem courageous, otherwise, they are not all that courageous.

5. Material Belongings

Everyone likes to have nice things, and if we could we would have all of the nice things possible, but not everyone likes to hear about all of the things you have been treating yourself with. Jealousy is an ugly color on most people, but arrogance is even uglier.

Keeping your material gains to yourself allows you to make conversation about much more pleasant things that won’t spark up the green-eyed monster in others, and you’ll be deemed a much more modest and likable person by the people around you.



By Francesca F.

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72 Comments

  1. Carlin Covello November 8, 2016 at 8:14 pm - Reply

    not always true if you have come from an abusive family

  2. Jennifer Travis Sattler November 8, 2016 at 10:07 pm - Reply

    But good food for thought if you are coming from an emotionally healthy place.❤

  3. Marvin Winston March 24, 2017 at 3:00 pm - Reply

    Keep your clothes on when the cameras rollin and keep it shut on facebook…oh wait too late…damn!

  4. Aaron Mullen March 24, 2017 at 1:05 pm - Reply

    Don’t be so paranoid not everyone is as evil as the media makes them out to be.

  5. Anurag Bansal March 24, 2017 at 1:07 pm - Reply

    Exactly

  6. Lydia Trite March 24, 2017 at 1:11 pm - Reply

    Haha…the media!! Now that’s funny!!

  7. Mark Bartnick March 24, 2017 at 1:14 pm - Reply

    Sometimes you have to give out info to get some back. People will open up to you if you share your most intimate thoughts.

  8. Mari Batchelor March 24, 2017 at 1:20 pm - Reply

    Sounds like we’re supposed to talk about other people and TV shows?

  9. Patricia Grace March 24, 2017 at 1:27 pm - Reply

    Funny but just these are the issues people most often talk about when they meet

  10. Kyle J Tantardini March 24, 2017 at 1:46 pm - Reply

    Yeah i share 3 out of 5. And i am better for it.

  11. John Eppes March 24, 2017 at 2:01 pm - Reply

    Excellent advice

  12. Nathaniel R-Two Racine March 24, 2017 at 2:38 pm - Reply

    Sharing secrets is good for you internally however, you shouldn’t ever share anything about your life

  13. Diane Walton March 24, 2017 at 2:43 pm - Reply

    I disagree with all of these. The more you share the more you connect with people.

  14. Ralph Schneider March 24, 2017 at 3:10 pm - Reply

    “The secret of being a bore is to tell everything.” – Voltaire

  15. Martin Pawar March 24, 2017 at 3:42 pm - Reply

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  16. Sheri Monroe March 24, 2017 at 3:44 pm - Reply

    The fact is no one cares about your dreams or problems unless their a shrink. Keep your business to yourself.

  17. Shaun Mckay March 24, 2017 at 4:29 pm - Reply

    If you cant share these things with people then you are around the wrong people

  18. John Garaventa March 24, 2017 at 6:58 pm - Reply

    Woops

  19. Michelle Campbell Torcicollo March 24, 2017 at 7:27 pm - Reply

    In todays world i keep it all to myself.

  20. Christian Spangenberger March 24, 2017 at 8:22 pm - Reply

    Totally disagree with number 1! From personal and also from my clients experience I can for sure say that talking about your goal often keeps you accountable and highly motivated!

  21. Dee Ann March 24, 2017 at 8:30 pm - Reply

    What exactly should I talk about? Just keep having shallow frustrating conversations and then have a psychologist tell me that I need to get people to talk to?

  22. Cameron Johnston March 24, 2017 at 8:51 pm - Reply

    True

  23. Jami Salama March 24, 2017 at 10:17 pm - Reply

    Some of them are very debatable. Depends on whom you’re sharing with.

  24. Blanca Rangel March 24, 2017 at 11:35 pm - Reply

    Your period hahahahaha

  25. Ken Martindale March 25, 2017 at 12:08 am - Reply

    After reading this list it seems that being a shallow shell of a person is the most applicable option….not for me thanks

  26. Julia Glassy March 25, 2017 at 12:11 am - Reply

    A little mystery goes a long way.

  27. Pan Muraell March 25, 2017 at 12:45 am - Reply

    tooth brush, dildo, partner,passwords, pin numbers. secrets, just for a start.

  28. Rob Lectka March 25, 2017 at 12:56 am - Reply

    Why do I see pictures with women exhibiting the be quiet symbol so often. It that some kind of secret code. Sure looks like one.

  29. Trevor Hollis March 25, 2017 at 1:57 am - Reply

    Put all these together and then you pretty much have the weather to talk about lol

  30. Floyd Miller March 25, 2017 at 3:10 am - Reply

    So everyone should keep to themselves and never have a meaningful relationship with anyone.

  31. Michelle Reynolds March 25, 2017 at 3:47 am - Reply

    Lost me with #2 *eyeroll*

  32. Yael Wijnauf March 25, 2017 at 4:14 am - Reply

    I disagree. If you can’t talk about those things with people, that’s because they’re not for you

  33. Moranda Relaford March 25, 2017 at 6:39 am - Reply

    So basically, never talk. have no friends.

  34. Edna Abing March 25, 2017 at 6:31 pm - Reply

    Action speaks louder than words.

  35. Laurel Gray March 26, 2017 at 7:29 am - Reply

    Why? We are all human. Not telling people these things will somehow make you more respected?

  36. Rica Penilla Oracion August 13, 2017 at 12:20 pm - Reply

    Oahhh

  37. Caroline Moses August 13, 2017 at 12:31 pm - Reply

    Totally agree 100%

  38. Marianne Isaacs August 13, 2017 at 1:06 pm - Reply

    Mmmmmm how interesting can the weather be ? This us a recipe for lonely isolation .

  39. Dee Dre August 13, 2017 at 1:06 pm - Reply

    Totally disagree 100%

  40. Shannon Rearick August 13, 2017 at 1:07 pm - Reply

    I agree. Sharing too much allows everyone in your business.

  41. Cade Foster August 13, 2017 at 2:24 pm - Reply

    Selfishness is not a good recipe for friendships – it only distances one from the other and it falls into discomfort and untruthful relationships.

  42. Amanda Errington August 13, 2017 at 4:36 pm - Reply

    Basically share nothing then Who writes this nonsense. I personally think that a world without sharing is sad. What’s left to chat about?

  43. Cocks John August 13, 2017 at 9:30 pm - Reply

    what go through life constantly worrying about what you say and others reactions . no thanks , nothing to hide , nothing to prove . let others have that problem

  44. Damian Donohue August 14, 2017 at 12:01 pm - Reply

    A lot of people I know act and coverse like it’s a soap opera, a scene from from days of our lives or something like that, you don’t need to air the dirty laundry of your life to the world, and they way you act and coverse create either a positive or negative atmosphere about your self, so not that I really don’t care or have any thing to prove, just wish to give positive vibes and no ammunition for any thing negative, so the points outlined are positive considerations what not to disclose, smile, be happy, care and love each other.

  45. Lou October 15, 2017 at 11:28 pm - Reply

    Trust me this makes so much sense it’s untrue!! I wish so many times I had kept my mouth shut and not told my business to others, everyone is not your friend, be your own best friend, the relationships that seem to work best are the ones that don’t allow outside influences, people don’t need to know every aspect of your life

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