We all know those people who radiate positivity, energy, and confidence, no matter their personal situation.

Those kinds of people have a natural charm that just makes them irresistible and a pleasure to be around. But what exactly makes those people so irresistible? How do they capture the attention and hearts of everyone around them?

Here are the five secrets you can start using today to make yourself irresistible.

1. Respect Others.

Respecting others and treating others with respect is one of the most important secrets of being irresistible. They believe all people are equal and, more importantly, they’re no more important than anybody else. Whether it’s your boss, a celebrity, a waiter or the cleaner at your apartment – treat everybody with the same level of respect and you will be well on your way to becoming irresistible.

The age-old saying “treat others as you would like to be treated yourself” isn’t just a useless saying, it’s a great way to live your life and view how you treat other people.

2. Know That People Are Important.

Placing a strong emphasis on people and connecting with others is one personality trait that makes irresistible people the way they are. This is not to be confused with fakery, however, as irresistible people maintain a genuine interest in others, rather than a superficial one.

Similarly, irresistible people don’t focus on small talk, they prefer meaningful conversations that involve getting to know other people and finding out what makes them tick. Automatically using small talk when you approach people puts their mind on auto-drive, which means they’re not focusing on you or building any real relationships.

Irresistible people know how to create meaningful moments and connections with people, even during a brief everyday conversation.

3. Be Approachable.

Being approachable and smiling is another main trait of an irresistible person. Smiling reduces the appearance of being stand-offish and people would be more likely to approach a smiling, friendly person than somebody who has a strong case of “resting bitch face.”

Irresistible people generally attract like-minded people, so showing you’re friendly, positive and willing to speak to new people, you will be more open to attracting these kinds of people into your life.

4. Have a Passion.

Being passionate about life as a whole as well as having hobbies and areas of interest that you’re particularly knowledgeable about will make you irresistible to others. Positivity spreads and if you’re giving off positive vibes to everybody you speak to, as well as having plenty of conversational topics to speak about, they will be dying to stay around you and get to know you better.

5. Look Good.

Making an effort to ensure you’re clean and groomed is an imperative aspect of being irresistible. Nobody wants to be around somebody who smells and doesn’t take care of their appearance. Similar to cleaning your house before somebody visits you, taking care of your personal appearance ties in with showing others respect. But be careful, there’s a fine line between grooming yourself and being vain. Don’t go over the top, it is not necessary.

To become appealing and irresistible to others takes practice. Hone in on those skills that make you a better person, and once you start putting them into practice, others will start to notice too. Remember, concentrate on others, always make sure they feel comfortable, relaxed, respected, understood and seen and you are well on your way to becoming irresistible.


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  1. Visual Meditation

    what a great post 🙂

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