Advice about relationships is truly a funny thing. No matter what generation you ask, or what era you are from, someone will always have something to tell you.
Why? There are a number of reasons, but for the sake of keeping the message short, it is because we always can keep improving. Your relationship may be Happily-Ever-After, but it won’t always been sunshine and rainbows. Some of us are in that rough patch and are looking for a way out.
Here are the most common and useful tips for a happy relationship that span the ages.
1. Stick With It
In most cases, this rough patch is only temporary, and will pass. Does your partner not know how to pick up his sweaty socks after he gets home? Maybe she doesn’t rinse the dishes right, so the dishwasher is getting gunked up? Either way, these are fixes that will take time, but are completely conquerable! No matter what, if you truly love this person, but are irritated by their actions, attempt to learn with them to solve the problem.
2. Be Genuine
There is an old saying that you don’t really know someone unless you are around them for six months. I never believed it when my mom told me, mind you she was also warning me about those Merriweather friends, but what my mother did know compared to ten-year-old me. Now that I am older, I see the truth in her words. People can keep masks up for a very long time, and if you rush into things, you may be surprised by what you find a year down the line! When entering a relationship, be yourself and no one else. Be “you” to your entirety, not a broken mess your ex left you. Chances are your new partner isn’t an archeologist who wants to study ruins for the rest of their lives.
3. Know Your Expectations
A lot about a relationship is finding yourself and your boundaries. When it comes to bringing another person into your life, you need to let them know what is expected. For some this is a casual conversation, for others it is never discussed, and it leaves the two fighting and breaking up. Well, to live together, you must work together towards common goals. If you find none of your “suitable matches” are really suitable for your tastes, take a look at what you are holding them up against. There is a difference between lowering your expectations and lowering your standards.
4. Confront the Tough Stuff Early
One of the most important aspects of a long-term relationship is that you will have big issues that will need to be talked about; the elephant in the room for most couples, finances. When making the foundation for a lifelong partnership, you need to be aware of your partners spending/saving habits before you start getting serious! I wish I had known that a long time ago! Save some headaches and bring it up in casual conversation.
Relationships are a full-time job no matter what anyone says. If you are not willing to commit the needed time and energy into this bond, then it will suffer over time. Ask the elders in your community about how their relationships have lasted. Many will have funny stories to tell you, and all of them will be providing you with invaluable insight on how to promote a fulfilling life.
By Brittany G.