There’s a new approach to relationships that may seem odd. Living apart together seems to be gaining in popularity.
Hey, I’m from the old school, and it never crossed my mind to marry someone and live in different homes, but now, it seems like a viable option.
Apparently, living apart together, or LAT, is something people do a lot these days. While I don’t think I would be a fan, there are many who claim it works great for them. It has even improved the overall lifestyle and peace of mind for some people. Let’s delve into the subject, shall we?
The first thing I have to get clear is that couples who decide to try LAT are not doing this to just get away from each other and see other people. No, that’s not the purpose of what I’ve understood. These couples are still devoted fully to the relationship or marriage, they just want their own space. They miss the feeling of dating and being able to return home to their own independence.
Some couples aren’t matched in many issues either. While one may love lots of quiet time, the other may like loud sports and drink with buddies. Don’t assume, this could be either way around, guys.
When you live apart, but you’re together, you have a few good points and bad points surrounding your situation. One of the good points of living apart but still being in together is that your home is all yours. Your partner also shares a home of their own as well.
Much of what I’ve read so far is about the good part is having your own bathroom and other living spaces. Women, we don’t have to clean up hairs from their shaving and men, you don’t have to clean our hygienic products off the sink constantly.
You can each do laundry as you please and cook if you want, or if not, just grab a sandwich. It’s about living in your own state of cleanliness and having no pressure. See, there’s a good point.
A bad part about this, in my opinion, is the lack of falling asleep together. I see this as one of my favorite parts of living with my husband. Being able to feel his warmth beside me and know he is there with me is nice. Of course, this may not be as important of a point as independence to some.
But it’s a little more serious than that. Living apart together seems to have become a popular modern trend even if a couple has children. The father may stay until the children are tucked into bed, return to his own home and then come back to help with breakfast. Hmm, it seems like a lot of trouble to me, personally. But if it works for some, I guess it works pretty well.
In some circumstances, different homes may be at distances too far for this sort of interaction, and children get less time with one or more parents. I hate to say it, but it seems like joint custody in this case. But there goes my opinion again, and it’s just an opinion.
Many couples see living apart together as a way to rekindle special feelings that have faded over time. You know that initial falling in love feeling where you just can’t get enough of each other, yeah that. Well, couples have attested that living apart has given them plenty of time to miss each other, which makes their reunion even sweeter.
They can meet for coffee, continue to go out on dates and even have a sleepover, but only every now and then. Remember, living apart means living apart.
There are three ways that living apart together can be accomplished. There’s not just one way about conducting this process.
The bottom line is…
Actually, there is no bottom line. As a couple, you must decide what you want together. This sort of decision has to be made as one, 100%, or it will not work out. If you want to live the old fashioned way, you know, together, then that’s wonderful too.
Either way, I sincerely hope it works out and marriages and relationships thrive. It’s always heartbreaking to see love fall apart.
I wish you well.
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