{"id":49500,"date":"2020-02-18T20:45:14","date_gmt":"2020-02-18T17:45:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=49500"},"modified":"2020-02-18T20:45:14","modified_gmt":"2020-02-18T17:45:14","slug":"signs-of-overly-critical-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/signs-of-overly-critical-parents\/","title":{"rendered":"11 Signs of Overly-Critical Parents and How to Handle Them"},"content":{"rendered":"

Does your mom or dad keep telling you that you’re raising your children the wrong way? Do your parents keep telling you to get a better job than the one you have now? If the answer to these rhetorical questions is yes,\u00a0<\/span>you may be dealing with critical parents.<\/span><\/p>\n

If your mom or dad never seems to have anything nice to say about you, you might need to keep reading this article. You’ll find out how to keep your parents’ unreasonable criticisms at bay<\/strong>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The Effect of Hyper-Criticism on Children<\/span><\/h2>\n

According to this study, overly-critical parents can have a detrimental effect on their children. Their children may become depressed and have issues nurturing loving relationships.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The study<\/a> revealed that children with critical parents might avoid looking into their parents’ eyes to lessen their exposure to harsh feelings or words. While some children can adapt and learn to ignore only negative emotions, they may fail to notice positive ones. The blocking of positive emotions can affect their relationships. They may also have a tendency to develop anxiety and depression.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The study also emphasized that what people experience affects the way they react to information in the future. These experiences cause them to develop biases to different emotional stimuli.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So, overly-harsh criticism can cause a child to develop as a cynical, critical adult.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

11 Signs of an Overly-Critical Parent<\/span><\/h2>\n

All of us know that overbearing parents<\/a> are less than relatable. The problem is deciding if your parent is giving constructive parental feedback or criticizing just because he or she can. Here’s how to tell.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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    Parents who are overly-critical have mood swings<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    First, if you have an overly-critical parent, you\u2019d almost always be waiting for the other shoe to drop. The fear that you might have said something offensive would be palpable. You\u2019d be walking on eggshells all the time; emotional intimidation is\u00a0abusive behavior<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    Parents who are overly-critical seldom, if ever, have anything positive to say about their children<\/strong>.\u00a0If you have such parents, you\u2019d feel like nothing you say or do are ever good enough.<\/p>\n

    Critical parents are not confident in their children\u2019s abilities.\u00a0As a result, these children often develop self-esteem issues and suffer from a lack of self-confidence later on.<\/p>\n

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      Such parents mock<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      These parents will criticize your looks, and your failures (these would be mountainous). They might mock you and deliberately raise issues that make you uncomfortable. Needless to say that such an attitude is a recipe for severe\u00a0self-esteem issues<\/a> in children.<\/p>\n

      Any choice of yours gets criticized<\/strong>. Whether it\u2019s the people you hang out with, the clothes you wear, or the college course you pick. Your overly critical parents will always find a reason why your decisions are wrong.<\/p>\n

      But the worst part is that they will mock you for those. Even when you are an adult, your overly critical parent will continue to judge every decision of yours and make belittling comments<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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        These parents are dismissive<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Harshly critical parents are almost always dismissive<\/a> of their children\u2019s feelings. They are disrespectful<\/strong> and don\u2019t treat their kids with kindness.<\/p>\n

        An example of such behavior is telling their kids that they are too sensitive to a person\u2019s remarks when these are hurtful. They chide their children for trying to get attention instead of offering comfort.<\/p>\n

        A child of overly critical parents may often be wronged and blamed<\/strong>, which can lead to severe guilt issues later in life.<\/p>\n

        For example, imagine that you are an older child and were left alone at home with your little brother. While playing, he broke a vase in the living room. When your critical mother comes home, she will blame and punish you<\/em> for not watching over your brother.<\/p>\n

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          Controlling<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          \"Controlling<\/p>\n

          Abusively-critical parents need to feel in control all the time<\/a>. They want to have the upper hand. They take you on guilt trips with their criticisms<\/strong> and make you feel less than worthy.<\/p>\n

          For example, a critical parent may blame the child for their own failures in life<\/strong>.<\/p>\n