{"id":43965,"date":"2019-05-17T19:48:31","date_gmt":"2019-05-17T16:48:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=43965"},"modified":"2020-09-24T17:19:07","modified_gmt":"2020-09-24T17:19:07","slug":"signs-one-sided-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/signs-one-sided-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"11 Signs of a One-Sided Relationship Most People Ignore"},"content":{"rendered":"
When you are in love, you often miss the signs that your relationship is getting one-sided<\/em>. Could it be? Could you be in this type of situation? It\u2019s easy to fall\u00a0into the trap of a one-sided relationship<\/strong>.<\/p>\n In the beginning, everything seems perfect. This is mainly due to the fact that you\u2019re seeing things through what some call \u201crose-colored glasses<\/em>\u201d. This means your relationship looks and feels amazing, and the new love is so strong that it covers all faults and imperfections\u2026 even the one-sided traits.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re dating or even married,\u00a0things should be balanced<\/strong>\u00a0in order for both parties to be happy. Relationships should be 50\/50. Love, commitment, and basic care should always be the same between two people in an intimate union.<\/p>\n So when you find yourself in a one-way relationship, it surely isn\u2019t a happy situation, at least for the one who\u2019s doing all the work. So why do people enter and stay in one-sided relationships<\/strong>?<\/p>\n Honestly, most people don\u2019t even know their relationship isn\u2019t 50\/50. To them, the\u00a0actions may seem normal<\/strong>, their self-esteem could play a part, and many other factors could blind someone from seeing the\u00a0truth of the relationship<\/a>. That\u2019s why we have to know the signs of a one-way relationship<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t beat yourself up if you realize you\u2019ve been a part of an unfair situation with your mate though. Many people endure this and often fail to see and interpret the signs.<\/p>\n I have endured one-sided aspects of a relationship before, but I survived. And no, I\u2019m not still feeling like a fool. It happens to plenty of people, honestly.<\/p>\n So, without dragging this on,\u00a0here are some signs you may have been ignoring<\/strong>.<\/p>\n It\u2019s okay to reach out to your partner when you want to talk.\u00a0What\u2019s not okay<\/strong>\u00a0is when you seem to always be the first one<\/em> to initiate conversations or texts. Honestly, think about it. If your partner never calls first, never starts conversations face to face, and never plans fun things to do with you, then something is terribly wrong.<\/p>\n Are you always the one who starts the process,<\/strong> whether it\u2019s the calls, texts, or even intimacy? Are you the only one making plans to go out or even visiting your partner if you\u2019re not yet married? If you\u2019re married, do you initiate almost everything, unless your mate already wants to do it for themselves? It has to be a selfish desire if they initiate anything.<\/p>\n If these things ring a bell, your relationship could be one-sided<\/strong>. In fact, it must be if the other member of the relationship has no desire to reach out for anything.<\/p>\n If you find it easy to open up to your partner, then you\u2019re doing it the right way. Unfortunately, some emotionally unavailable girlfriends and boyfriends<\/a> have a hard time opening up at all, and this leads to one-sided relationships<\/em>.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re in\u00a0a healthy relationship<\/a>, you share things with each other. This could be tangible things, but the most important things are mental things. It is important\u00a0to be honest<\/a> with your partner, and it\u2019s healthy to talk about your feelings with one another.<\/p>\n You shouldn\u2019t be the only one sharing stories about yourself<\/strong> to your partner, or sharing your deepest faults and feelings. It\u2019s a bad sign if you\u2019re telling your partner everything, and they\u2019re utilizing a brick wall to hide their feelings, thoughts, and emotions. Maybe you haven\u2019t noticed the difference here before, but\u00a0I bet you\u2019re considering it now.<\/p>\n If they aren\u2019t doing the same,\u00a0they are definitely creating an imbalance<\/strong>\u00a0and not only that, they are keeping up with everything you say in case they need to use it against you. While not everyone uses facts to hurt people, when some relationships end, one person uses what they know about the other and smears their ex-partner\u2019s reputation<\/a>. Watch out.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Here\u2019s one that has really\u00a0irritated me in the past<\/strong>, and I looked past it so many times. Well, I\u2019m here to help you see it early on.<\/p>\n Have you expressed something that bothers you to your mate? How did they react? If your partner listened and helped you work through these things, that\u2019s good. If they told you that\u00a0you\u2019re nagging<\/a>\u00a0and then refused to change any of these issues, then you might be fighting a one-sided battle<\/strong>.<\/p>\n While we\u00a0should all have freedom<\/strong>, we should never let our freedom come before the feelings of our mate. In healthy relationships, partners express things that bother them, and they both work on ways to fix the issues, either compromising or sacrificing damaging influences. You will know you\u2019re in a one-sided relationship with your partner<\/strong> when he or she refuses to be considerate of your feelings.<\/p>\n Communication is one of the most important aspects of a happy relationship, and if you cannot use it, then the relationship is doomed. If one person is trying to communicate problems in the union, and you brush them off or get angry, then this is one-sided behavior<\/strong> also known as stonewalling<\/a>.<\/p>\n You cannot fix a problem\u00a0unless both parties are involved\u00a0in the discussion, and yes, there needs to be a discussion.<\/p>\n One way to reveal an unequal one-sided relationship is to pay attention to your partner\u2019s priorities<\/strong>. While priorities can vary a bit when it comes to relationships, no one should pick their friends over their partner. It\u2019s just not right. If your partner rather spends time with friends than you, you could be in a relationship that just isn\u2019t fair.<\/p>\n Yeah, sure, sometimes, the fight is your fault, but not all the time. There is rarely a relationship where all the fault goes to one person. If your girlfriend refuses to take responsibility for her part of the disagreement or issue<\/a>, then\u00a0the relationship\u2019s balance is off<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Maybe you think you\u2019re keeping the peace by apologizing all the time, but you\u2019re only letting them take advantage of you. Apologies are important<\/strong>, but not when you\u2019re handing them out left and right for no reason. If you make a mistake or do something wrong, by all means, say you\u2019re sorry. But don\u2019t get stuck on apologies to please your significant other<\/strong>.<\/p>\n If you are shelling out apologies for being tired or for something you didn\u2019t do, then the relationship is coming from a one-sided angle.<\/p>\n Making excuses for your partner\u2019s behavior <\/strong>is another tell-tale sign of\u00a0a one-sided relationship.<\/p>\n Of course, this also depends on why\u00a0you\u2019re making excuses\u00a0as well. If you are ashamed of your partner, then making excuses is an issue within YOU. But if you\u2019re making excuses\u00a0because of mistreatment<\/strong>, then seems like your partner has the upper hand. You are helping them portray an image that isn\u2019t real. It might be time to get out.<\/p>\n Your parents, friends, or other loved ones may start to notice little things about him that seem a little off, but you will always come to his rescue. I remember doing the same thing\u00a0in my first marriage<\/a>. My husband was abusive, my parents noticed, and they warned me. I told them he was just going through some serious problems at the time.<\/p>\n Just face it, if you\u2019re making excuses for your partner’s toxic behavior, you\u2019re in the wrong relationship<\/strong>.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Do you often find yourself having to ask for favors that you gladly do for your husband? Well, this is a sign of a one-way relationship.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re shopping and pick up some small treat, you will probably think of your husband. Will he do the same for you when he\u2019s out? You have to\u00a0pay attention to these small things<\/strong>\u00a0as well in order to understand the direction the relationship is going.<\/p>\n One of the worst parts of being in a one-way marriage or union<\/strong> is second-guessing yourself. Here\u2019s an example of what that means.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve ever lived alone after leaving your parent\u2019s home, then hopefully, you\u2019ve discovered the basics of who you are. When you enter a one-way relationship, after a while, your partner will have you questioning who you really are\u2026 even those basics you discovered while being alone.<\/p>\n This is usually done to get you off-kilter and\u00a0prove you wrong<\/strong>, in case you are in an argument. Never ever let your partner make you second guess your worth.<\/p>\n And then there\u2019s getting right to the point. Maybe you aren\u2019t happy with your wife. Maybe you thought you had many things in common but realized that wasn\u2019t true.<\/p>\n There could be some attributes or characteristics that were exposed during the first part of the marriage, and now you\u2019re trying to make it work. If both of you aren\u2019t trying, then you are probably incredibly unhappy. You\u2019re\u00a0living a fake life<\/strong>\u00a0with a\u00a0fake marriage<\/a>.<\/p>\n I realized something a long time ago, and here is what I know now: If there are more bad times than good,\u00a0it\u2019s time to evaluate the relationship<\/em>.<\/p>\n Being overly stressed out\u00a0may be due to an imbalanced love affair<\/strong>. If one person is stressed out and the other one seems happy and carefree, something isn\u2019t right. It\u2019s time to consider the future of your relationship.<\/p>\n Sometimes you just feel like the relationship is unfair. Maybe you\u2019re dealing with negative energies which cause you to question the future with your boyfriend.<\/p>\n Honestly,\u00a0there may be no clear reasons<\/strong>\u00a0why you feel this way, but the feeling may be so strong\u00a0that you build resentment<\/a>. This is the time to evaluate all the other signs above and see if some of these things are happening right under your nose.<\/p>\n Hey, some things just aren\u2019t that obvious when you\u2019re in love, and all you have to go on is a lingering feeling of doubt. Pay attention to this.<\/p>\n Being in an\u00a0unbalanced relationship<\/a>\u00a0is horrific. I\u2019ve been there, and more than once. It seems\u00a0I have a hard time learning\u00a0my lesson about dating people who don\u2019t pull their weight.<\/p>\n I hate to tell you, but when one side dominates the other in a relationship, it will usually fail <\/strong>if not improved or changed. The key is always equality when it comes to how you treat your mate and how they treat you in return. It\u2019s only fair that both parties get the attention<\/a>, love, and care they deserve.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n If you are in a one-sided relationship, then you\u2019re not the only one. There are so many people, women, and men, who are struggling to make their relationship work right at this very moment. But unfortunately, not all of them will stay together.<\/p>\nWhy Do People Get Involved in One-Way Relationships?<\/h2>\n
How to Recognize the Signs of a One-Sided Relationship?<\/h2>\n
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You always reach out first<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Transparency differs<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Issues aren\u2019t fixed<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Wrong priorities<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Too many or wrongful apologies<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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Making excuses<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You have to ask for favors<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You second guess your own mind<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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You\u2019re just not happy<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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There\u2019s way too much stress<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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There\u2019s just a feeling<\/h3>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
What to Do If You Are in a One-Sided Relationship?<\/h2>\n