{"id":40551,"date":"2019-02-22T20:18:58","date_gmt":"2019-02-22T17:18:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=40551"},"modified":"2019-02-22T20:18:58","modified_gmt":"2019-02-22T17:18:58","slug":"staying-single","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/staying-single\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Ways Staying Single for Too Long Changes Your View of Life"},"content":{"rendered":"
People act and feel certain ways according to their relationship status. When you\u2019re used to being single, your perspective of life is different.<\/p>\n
Being able to speak from two perspectives, single and married, has given me the advantage of understanding things<\/strong> a bit better. For instance, I can now see that when you stay single for long periods of time, it can greatly change how you view relationships, even life in general.<\/p>\n It\u2019s true. It\u2019s strange how so much difference can come according to whether or not you share your daily life with someone or not.<\/p>\n By understanding these truths, we learn to formulate a new way of looking at things. There are a few ways that staying single for too long changes how we feel, speak, and act<\/strong> when it comes to making decisions<\/a>.<\/p>\n Unfortunately, when you stay single for too long, you start sabotaging things<\/a>. If you were in relationships on a regular basis before, you probably seemed a bit more concerned when things went wrong, right? Well, now that you\u2019ve been single for say 5 years or so, you just don\u2019t care how things work out, do you? There is a reason for that mindset.<\/p>\n The reason why you\u2019re falling victim to self-sabotage now that you have been single for so long is that you have been single for so long\u2026You see, you know it\u2019s not hard to be alone<\/a>, and in fact, you\u2019ve done this long enough to be comfortable<\/strong>. So, honestly, if the relationship doesn\u2019t work out, you know that you will be fine.<\/p>\n There is no more feeling like you\u2019re going to die if the relationship dies. No, if the relationship ends, you know you will be fine..you might even be super okay with it. This is the problem.<\/p>\n Staying single for a long time makes you forget what\u2019s appropriate and not appropriate<\/strong> for relationships. For instance, someone who has been single for a while will be used to flirting openly and seeking intimate partners. However, when you are in a committed relationship, you cannot do these things.<\/p>\n There are other behaviors as well that work in much the same way. As a single person, your habits and behaviors are understood by others in life. You aren\u2019t attached, you are free to be a bit more selfish, and you can focus on improving yourself for yourself.<\/p>\n In a relationship, you are attached to another in one way or the other, you cannot be selfish<\/a> and you must focus on things for both you and your partner. You can see how the differing behaviors would reflect<\/strong> these opposing groups.<\/p>\n After being single for so long, you develop a certain detachment<\/a> for things relationship-centered. Romantic movies hold less weight in your mind, and couples seem alien to you. You may wonder why there is such an emphasis on the need for relationships in the first place.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s face it, you\u2019re out of practice<\/strong> when it comes to these things. Just like some people worry that their physical parts will shrivel up due to non-use, the also feel like their needs and desires for another will wane as well. Honestly, in some aspects it does. It\u2019s as if you\u2019re seeing love through a window and just cannot quite connect with the possibility.<\/p>\n Since there\u2019s no one around to coax you to shake up your routine, it seems you\u2019re following it quite well. I know, this sounds like a good thing, doesn\u2019t it? You make a schedule, keep it to a \u201cT\u201d, but come on, there is no shred of excitement<\/strong> to mess that routine up.<\/p>\n Being single too long has robbed you of one important thing in life\u2026spontenaiety. Now, I\u2019m not saying that consistency is bad, heaven forbid. I am just saying that you will look at things differently, like idolizing the routine, when you\u2019re staying single for too long.<\/p>\n When there’s no one around to pull you from your comfort zone<\/a> once in a while, you will never leave it<\/strong>. You start to think that what you have is good enough, and a relationship is just not worth disrupting that sanctuary. See how loaded this turned out to be?<\/p>\nStaying single for a long time quickly reveals the truth about many aspects of life.<\/h2>\n
Let\u2019s take a closer look.<\/h3>\n
1. Sabotage<\/h4>\n
2. Behaviors<\/h4>\n
3. Detachment<\/h4>\n
4. The routine<\/h4>\n
5. Hope dwindles<\/h4>\n