{"id":38603,"date":"2018-10-23T18:06:28","date_gmt":"2018-10-23T15:06:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=38603"},"modified":"2020-11-22T18:28:30","modified_gmt":"2020-11-22T18:28:30","slug":"fake-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/fake-love\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Signs of Fake Love That Can Reveal the Truth about Your Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"
No one wants to think they\u2019re in a fake relationship<\/a>, but some people can be pretty devious. If you suspect there\u2019s something not quite right in your relationship but you can\u2019t put your finger on it, it could be a sign of fake love.<\/p>\n \u201cSpend your time with those who love you unconditionally, not with those who only love you under certain conditions.<\/em>\u201d \u2013 Suzy Kassem<\/p><\/blockquote>\n So what exactly are we talking about when we describe fake love?<\/p>\n We all grow and mature as we get older. That\u2019s a fact of life. But if you find your personality<\/a> changing for the worse then it could be a sign of fake love.<\/strong> When I was in a controlling relationship<\/a> my friends used to say that I\u2019d \u2018lost my fun and sparkle\u2019<\/em>. I couldn\u2019t see it at the time. It was only later when I looked back at the start of the relationship.<\/p>\n At the start, I had been an extremely strong and independent woman. Towards the end, I wouldn\u2019t even look up from the pavement when we were out shopping together in case my partner thought I was eyeing up other men.<\/p>\n No one needs to control another person. If a person has to control their partner it is a sign they are fragile and jealous<\/a> themselves.<\/strong><\/p>\n There are countless ways a partner can control you. For example, they can use sulking as a method, they can argue or withhold communication. Some will insist on handling the finances or making all the decisions in the house.<\/p>\n Others will always choose where to go on holidays or where to eat out. If you feel you have no control over any part of your life with your partner, it could be a sign of fake love.<\/p>\n When a relationship is based on true love<\/a>, it is kind and compassionate. On the other hand, when it is fake it is cruel and doesn\u2019t care how much it hurts the other person.<\/p>\n I remember my ex telling me, in front of his children, how \u2018****ing ugly I was\u2019. I remember when he said it that there was no other person on the planet he would be so cruel to. And he was supposed to love me. It didn\u2019t make sense. True love is supposed to be uplifting and gentle and caring<\/strong>. Not like this devastatingly bitter and vindictive stab in the heart.<\/p>\n True love trusts<\/a>\u00a0implicitly and without question.<\/strong> It is able to think that your partner can be anywhere in the world, surrounded by anyone and you feel fine about it.<\/p>\n This is exactly how I felt about my last partner. I knew deep down that I trusted him implicitly. It wouldn\u2019t matter who he ran into. I would always be in his heart and he would never betray me.<\/p>\n And he felt exactly the same way about me. It was such a refreshing change after my ex. By contrast, he always thought I was off having affairs with every bloke I came into contact with.<\/p>\n When someone truly gets you it can be magical. I remember my last boyfriend reading me some poetry (yeah I know, pretty pretentious!) But there was one line we both picked out. The metaphors the poet used were brilliant and my bloke knew I would appreciate them.<\/p>\n We laughed at the same jokes, we were raised in the same area and had a similar background growing up. As we were a similar age it turned out that we loved the same music<\/a> and watched the same TV shows. Most importantly for me was that we voted the same way.<\/p>\n True love feels like two jigsaw pieces finally coming together<\/strong>. When you have opposite views or your partner doesn\u2019t get you, it\u2019s like fitting that proverbial round peg into a square hole.<\/p>\n Fake love will never be patient with you. In fact, the opposite is true. Fake love gets impatient and short-tempered.<\/strong> It doesn\u2019t want to understand if you\u2019ve got issues or problems. It can\u2019t be bothered to wait or help you.<\/p>\n Instead, it gets angry and dismissive. Moreover, it\u2019s cruel and snappy. It\u2019s judgemental because it doesn\u2019t love you enough to be patient. True love will always wait for you and be there to help.<\/p>\n True love wants you to be your best self. If there\u2019s a problem they will give you as much time as you need and as much help as you require.<\/p>\n The real test of true love and fake love is respect. Fake love cannot respect<\/a> its partner.<\/strong> And if you cannot respect someone you\u2019ll never be able to love them. It\u2019s a bit of a catch 22 situation. How can you expect love where respect is lacking?<\/p>\n If you\u2019re ever in doubt, consider how you feel when you are in company with other people and your partner. Do they make you feel positive and intelligent? Do they shower you with compliments and back up your opinions? Have they supported your past decisions and always consider you when they make decisions of their own?<\/p>\n If the answer is a resounding no then you should ask yourself why you\u2019re still with this person.<\/p>\nWell, here are 10 signs of fake love you should be looking out for:<\/h3>\n
1.\u00a0Change in Personality<\/h4>\n
2. Coercive Control<\/h4>\n
3. Cruelty<\/h4>\n
4. Doesn\u2019t trust you<\/h4>\n
5. Doesn\u2019t understand you<\/h4>\n
6. Lack of Patience<\/h4>\n
7. Little Respect<\/h4>\n
8. Makes you feel unattractive<\/h4>\n