{"id":36663,"date":"2018-07-30T20:46:05","date_gmt":"2018-07-30T17:46:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=36663"},"modified":"2018-07-30T20:46:05","modified_gmt":"2018-07-30T17:46:05","slug":"how-to-control-jealousy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/how-to-control-jealousy\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Control Jealousy in a Long Distance Relationship with 5 Strategies"},"content":{"rendered":"
Learning how to control jealousy in a long distance relationship can be hard. However, it is necessary if you want to make your relationship work.<\/p>\n
What\u2019s the biggest problem that couples in a long distance relationship face<\/strong>? If you guessed not being able to see each other on a regular basis or pining for one another, you\u2019d be wrong (though those are definitely hard things to handle<\/em>). <\/p>\n No, the biggest issue that couples who are separated by many miles face is, believe it or not, jealousy<\/strong>. For this reason, it’s important to learn to control jealousy if you are in a long distance relationship<\/strong>.<\/p>\n The green-eyed monster tends to rear its ugly head in every relationship. Even couples who live in the same zip code or share an address can get jealous from time-to-time.<\/p>\n But for long-distance couples, feelings of jealousy can occur more frequently. You might feel jealous that your other half is having more fun than you are, or that \u2013 heaven forbid \u2013 someone he or she is making the moves on someone else (or that someone else is making the moves on him or her<\/em>).<\/p>\n Making effort to control jealousy can be harder for long distance couples<\/a> to contend with than couples who see each other regularly, too. Since you can\u2019t physically see each other, it can be difficult to hash out how you are feeling.<\/p>\n While a little jealousy can actually be good for a relationship (it shows that you care and that you really want to be with the other person<\/em>), if the feelings escalate and aren\u2019t dealt with, they can be destructive and eventually cause the downfall of your relationship.<\/p>\n In order to successfully overcome and control jealousy in your long distance relationship, the first thing you need to do is figure out why you are feeling jealous<\/a> in the first place.<\/p>\n Are you feeling jealous because you aren\u2019t able to be a part of activities that your partner is partaking in? Do you envy the people that he or she gets to spend more time with? Do you feel like there is a chance that he or she could be cheating on you? Is he or she not contacting you? Do you feel like you\u2019ve lost sight of each other?<\/p>\n Once you figure out why you are jealous, you can speak to your partner about your feelings<\/strong> and get to the root of the problem. If you avoid this step, it\u2019s very likely that you\u2019ll end up arguing over things that don\u2019t pertain to the real issue \u2013 jealousy \u2013 and you\u2019ll damage the relationship even more.<\/p>\n Understanding each other is important for every relationship, but perhaps even more so for couples who are doing the long distance thing<\/strong>. It\u2019s easy to lose sight of one another and eventually stop understanding where each other are coming from.<\/p>\n Understanding each other should be a top priority for your long distance relationship. Not only will it help you strengthen your bond, but it can also help you control any feelings of jealousy that may arise.<\/p>\n For example, if your other half can\u2019t stop talking about the good time he had last night, if you have a real understanding of each other, you\u2019ll know that he\u2019s not doing it to make you feel jealous. He\u2019s simply excited and wants to share his excitement with you.<\/p>\n Trust is the foundation<\/a> of any healthy and successful relationship. <\/p>\n When you don\u2019t trust your partner, it\u2019s easy for feelings of jealousy to arise, and those feelings can become overpowering. The more you trust your partner, the more secure you will be in your relationship, and the less jealous you will feel.<\/p>\n For instance, when she tells you that she had dinner with a male co-worker, you\u2019ll probably feel a lot less jealous about the situation if you completely and totally trust her<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Your partner is attractive, smart, funny, and has an award-winning personality. All the things that attracted you to him or her are the same things that you fear will attract others<\/a>. <\/p>\n You worry that someone else is going to try to move in on your guy or gal, and your imagination runs wild with all of the possible things that could happen.<\/p>\nFortunately, there are ways to control jealousy in your long distance relationship. Here\u2019s how\u2026<\/h2>\n
1. Pinpoint the Cause<\/h3>\n
2. Understand Each Other<\/h3>\n
3. Have Trust<\/h3>\n
4. Don\u2019t Let Your Imagination Run Wild<\/h3>\n