{"id":34896,"date":"2018-05-29T21:05:12","date_gmt":"2018-05-29T18:05:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=34896"},"modified":"2024-03-10T22:25:04","modified_gmt":"2024-03-10T19:25:04","slug":"self-sabotage-happiness-success","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/self-sabotage-happiness-success\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Warning Signs of Self-Sabotage That May Cost You Happiness and Success"},"content":{"rendered":"
Whether you are guilty of self-sabotage or not, most probably, you have a dream life. In your dream life, everything is perfect the way you want them to be.<\/p>\n
You are working on your dream job. You love your job<\/a> so much that you feel excited every morning when you are about to step out of the door and head to your work.<\/p>\n Your family is happy. You are able to support your family with every need. You spend a lot of time with your family<\/a> and never miss any of your children\u2019s plays. Your house is full of love and laughter. And your heart is dancing every morning when you see them<\/strong>!<\/p>\n Your job is sucking the living soul out of you. You are so busy to even come home for dinner and barely see your children\u2019s faces when they are still awake. At the same time, you always need more money.<\/p>\n You miss out a lot of your children\u2019s special events. Your wife complains about how ignorant you are and how tired she feels. Every morning you wake up before you even get out of bed, you think about all the jobs you have to do that day, and you just hope nothing will go wrong.<\/p>\n Your only place to escape from your reality is at night, after the house is quiet, and you have some free time to dream about how your dream life will look like. You may not want to hear this. It\u2019s your responsibility. How your life turns out is 100% your responsibility. You cannot play a victim here because you are not one.<\/p>\n \u201cBut I\u2019m doing everything I can. You cannot charge me being guilty <\/em>for my wife doesn\u2019t want to talk to me<\/em>\u201d, you might think.<\/p>\n The thing is, you might be sabotaging yourself and your life without knowing it. Out of these 10 signs of self-sabotage, which one are you guilty of?<\/p>\n Life has up and down. But we all tend to focus on the downsides. We forget to celebrate when things are right but we complain when things go wrong.<\/p>\n You will never feel happy if you focus on the negativity. Nothing is permanent. Embrace every moment. This moment is your life<\/strong>.<\/p>\n As a part of being a people-pleaser<\/a>, you cannot say no to anyone. Your boss gives you an unreasonable quest, but instead of saying no and going home on time, you keep it for yourself and try to stay at work to complete it.<\/p>\n But you forget one thing. If you cannot say no, people will not remember to give you credit. People only appreciate you when they are desperately in need, and you are there to save the day.<\/p>\n But if you are always there, they will put you as the backup plan in their mind and forget to consider that you have a life of your own.<\/p>\n You think some people are cool because they are smarter, younger, fitter or prettier than you. Thus, you try to become them, in the hope that you will appear as cool as they are.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s the thing. You are unique and special because you are yourself. Stop trying so hard to become someone else to win people\u2019s affection. Because if they love you, they will love you for who you are.<\/p>\n You can lie to everyone but yourself. Stop pretending that things are okay when they aren\u2019t. This is one of the worst forms of self-sabotage<\/strong>.<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t like something in your current life, do not convince yourself that you are okay with it, do something to change it.<\/p>\n The past cannot hurt you anymore unless you let it. You cannot move on if you don\u2019t give your past the closure it needed.<\/p>\n You set unrealistic goals for yourself and expect you to be a superman who can cross everything off your 3-mile-long to-do list. When you don\u2019t, you beat yourself up.<\/p>\n Success is not a sprint. It is a marathon. Your life is like a marathon too. Give yourself enough rest to stay in it in the long run.<\/p>\n You are afraid of changes and uncertainties and prefer staying inside your comfort zone<\/a>\u00a0rather than taking chances.<\/p>\n Comfort zone means a predictable life. You cannot expect your life to turn out extraordinary if you don\u2019t dare to do something wild.<\/p>\n You spend a lot of time trying to make things perfect and refuse to make a move until your result is guaranteed. For this reason, you refuse to follow your dream<\/a>\u00a0simply because you don\u2019t want to start over.<\/p>\nIn reality, though, things aren\u2019t exactly what you dream about.<\/h3>\n
1. You focus on the wrong things<\/h3>\n
2. You cannot say no<\/h3>\n
3. You try to become someone you are not<\/h3>\n
4. You lie to yourself<\/h3>\n
5. You dwell on the past<\/h3>\n
6. You beat yourself up<\/h3>\n
7. You don\u2019t want to get out of your comfort zone<\/h3>\n
8. You try to make things perfect<\/h3>\n