{"id":33536,"date":"2018-04-05T19:06:19","date_gmt":"2018-04-05T16:06:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=33536"},"modified":"2020-09-03T14:05:06","modified_gmt":"2020-09-03T14:05:06","slug":"emotional-detachment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/emotional-detachment\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Signs of Emotional Detachment in Relationships: How to Cope"},"content":{"rendered":"
Emotional detachment in a relationship can be extremely painful to deal with. It often happens over the course of a romantic relationship and leaves people feeling isolated and confused.<\/p>\n
Emotional detachment is not exclusive to romantic relationships<\/strong>, it can happen within friendships and families. The common theme between the breakdown of all these relationships is the lack of communication that leads to detachment.<\/p>\n If you feel like your partner, friend or family member may be becoming emotionally detached, there are ways you can combat this.<\/p>\n When someone is emotionally detaching themselves, they have a tendency to withdraw and spend more time alone. Whilst this can be painful, it\u2019s important to not overreact to the situation. Demanding that someone spends time with you will not help. Instead, give them some space.<\/p>\n Then, in a calm environment ask them if they are feeling like spending more time alone, and if so why. Direct this in a non-confrontational way and listen patiently.<\/p>\n It\u2019s likely that they will feign ignorance to the situation or insist it\u2019s not an issue. It\u2019s important to stand your ground here and make it clear this is an issue for you, whilst stressing that you want to resolve it<\/strong>.<\/p>\n In addition to spending more time alone, emotionally detached people may be more furtive about their whereabouts<\/strong>. If this is unusual behaviour within your relationship then it is good to address it early on.<\/p>\n Again, approaching this in a calm manner will be key to working through the issue. It\u2019s good to have a comparison point to hand to show that the relationship has changed.<\/p>\n For example, at the start of your relationship, you were probably more open with each other. Remind them how you used to let each other know where you were going and how you would check in with each other on a regular basis.<\/p>\n Present these memories in a positive way, as if you’re remembering happy memories<\/a>. Then try and work out how you can get back to the place where you communicated better.<\/p>\n Emotionally detached people tend to display selfish patterns of behaviour<\/a>. They may become more introverted and less concerned with problems or issues that you are dealing with.<\/p>\n In order to nurture the relationship, you must remain interested in their issues. Ask questions<\/a> and show interest in a way that you would hope that they would.<\/p>\n If their distant behaviour continues, try asking them directly for help with a problem. Let them know that you really value their opinion and that the help would be much appreciated.<\/p>\n If they still don\u2019t offer any empathy, then call them out on their behaviour and let them know it\u2019s hurting you. Remind them that for the relationship to work, you need to support each other.<\/p>\n Someone who is emotionally detached is unlikely to make long-term plans. It\u2019s a sign that they don\u2019t want to commit to the relationship<\/a>.<\/p>\n However, be cautious when interpreting this behaviour as there may be other forces at work. It may not be the relationship that they aren\u2019t committed to but something else in their life, like a job or their house.<\/p>\n Perhaps they don\u2019t want to make long-term plans because they wish to change their lifestyle. The only way to know the motivations behind their behaviour is to talk to them about it with them<\/strong>. Try and find the root of their dissatisfaction and then explain how it’s impacting your relationship.<\/p>\n You can feel when someone is emotionally detaching themselves from you. It can be very painful, especially if you remain attached to them. It\u2019s likely that once you notice this feeling, it\u2019s hard to shake<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Try not to take every little action to heart because the behaviour may be temporary<\/a>. Relationships of all kinds of ebb and flow and emotional detachment may not be permanent<\/em>.<\/p>\n Be prepared to ride the wave out and express to the other person that you\u2019re willing to wait for them. But, make it clear that their actions are hurting you or they may not understand the consequences of their behaviour.<\/p>\nThe list below includes the most common signs of emotional detachment and how to deal with it.<\/h2>\n
1. They spend more time alone.<\/h3>\n
2. They don\u2019t tell you where they are going or where they have been.<\/h3>\n
3. They are less interested in your problems.<\/h3>\n
4. They don\u2019t want to make long-term plans.<\/h3>\n
5. They feel cold and disconnected.<\/h3>\n
Whilst the above advice can help combat emotional detachment within a relationship, it\u2019s important to know when to fight for a relationship and when to let it go.<\/h2>\n