{"id":31515,"date":"2017-12-29T23:44:10","date_gmt":"2017-12-29T20:44:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=31515"},"modified":"2022-10-10T21:09:39","modified_gmt":"2022-10-10T18:09:39","slug":"child-rearing-mistakes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/child-rearing-mistakes\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Child-Rearing Mistakes That May Cost Your Kid\u2019s Happiness"},"content":{"rendered":"
All parents want the most important project of their life\u2014child rearing\u2014to be successful, and they do their best. However, parenting styles differ.<\/p>\n
While some parents prefer not to be involved in the child\u2019s life at all, others become hostages of their own fears and misconceptions and grow with their child together.<\/p>\n
Despite the differences in approaches, both miss a very important detail\u2014balance.<\/p>\n
The danger of an unbalanced parenting style isn\u2019t obvious. But this is exactly what specialists call neglectful parenting and what can affect a child\u2019s life in the future.<\/p>\n
The words that seem appropriate to parents at a certain moment or their usual behavior can harm children. The only reason parents didn\u2019t get rid of these child-rearing mistakes earlier is a lack of knowledge<\/strong>. So, let\u2019s connect the dots to prevent unwelcome events in the future.<\/p>\n During the first years of their lives, children depend on their parents completely<\/strong>. At this time, it is necessary for parents to forget about their personal life and be around children day and night. However, as soon as children seek for some independence, it\u2019s time to give it to them (in the amount they can handle<\/em>).<\/p>\n For example, it\u2019s better to let toddlers gather their toys by themselves instead of trying to help them or to allow preschoolers swing. It\u2019s impossible to save a kid from the dangerous outside world. And they don\u2019t need it. You need it much more than them, for the sake of your own calmness.<\/p>\n However, by overprotecting their children<\/a>, parents make them dependable and unable to make their own decisions. Further, these children will turn into adults who can\u2019t carry responsibility and deal with the simplest domestic problems. These adults remain immature and indecisive.<\/p>\n To not let that happen, parents should allow their children to take risks and be responsible for their actions<\/strong>. Life isn\u2019t always a holiday, and they need to understand that.<\/p>\n Lack of supervision is the other side of overprotection. It\u2019s all about balance, remember? Thus, a lack of control when it comes to child-rearing might also have unpleasant consequences.<\/p>\n Giving children too much space, parents leave them alone face to face with the big world they haven\u2019t explored properly yet. When children don\u2019t look for help, parents shouldn\u2019t force them to use some. But if they ask for help or a piece of advice, parents always have to be there<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Evidently, children need to learn by themselves, but they also need a person they can trust. And this is their parent whose main task is to be a lighthouse and show their children the way when they get lost.<\/p>\n In case children didn\u2019t receive help when they needed it and were on their own, they probably wouldn\u2019t be able to develop confidence in their deeds. They will feel lost in the sea of life often changing the direction or just drifting out there.<\/p>\n To raise a purposeful and confident person, parents have to be ready to help on requests.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n To tell the truth, this is the most popular child-rearing mistake most of the parents make. As soon as they have a child, they forget about themselves, their interests, lives, and personalities, and focus on a child. Such behavior is normal if it is temporary, but it can\u2019t become constant<\/strong>.<\/p>\n To children, the actions of parents speak louder than words. So, if parents<\/a> tell them they love each other but do not show it, the words will be futile. Sure, children can be jealous of parents kissing as they need to be loved and feel significant.<\/p>\n It\u2019s absolutely normal, too. However, putting children in the center of the world won\u2019t help them to feel loved. It just teaches them that everyone is submitted to them. And this is not how the world works.<\/p>\n Instead of making the world rotate around their children, parents should show they love them and each other. It is important to show children how much parents\u2019 relationship improved after they had them, to make them realize they are the reason for love to grow.<\/p>\n This way, your children will not turn into people who are seeking for attention and adoration<\/strong>. They will become content and self-sufficient adults who are able to share happiness and love with others<\/strong>, build strong families and supportive communities.<\/p>\n They say the best way of child-rearing is to raise yourself, not your children, as they will be like you anyway. This statement is the one many parents have to stick to in everyday life. Unfortunately, they use another way. Parents demand their children be honest<\/a> and at the same time, they do not follow this rule themselves<\/strong>.<\/p>\n For instance, they need children, to be honest, while they are trying to solve a conflict between their peers on the playground. But they don\u2019t see anything inappropriate in saying that their children are younger than they actually are to get a cheaper ticket.<\/p>\n Often, parents don\u2019t even pay attention to such things, but children notice the tiniest details, especially when parents do something opposite to what they said earlier. If parents set the rules, they need to follow them, too.<\/p>\n1. Overprotection \u2192 Dependence<\/h3>\n
2. Lack of supervision \u2192 Uncertainty<\/h3>\n
3. Neglecting of parents\u2019 relationship \u2192 Misguided perception of the world<\/h3>\n
4. Selective honesty \u2192 Double standards<\/h3>\n