{"id":2874,"date":"2014-07-19T23:10:31","date_gmt":"2014-07-19T20:10:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=2874"},"modified":"2020-08-25T07:47:39","modified_gmt":"2020-08-25T07:47:39","slug":"4-ways-being-selfish-is-a-good-thing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/4-ways-being-selfish-is-a-good-thing\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Ways Being Selfish Is A Good Thing!"},"content":{"rendered":"
All through my life, I\u2019ve been the kind of person who put other people\u2019s needs first, whether that\u2019s a lover, a friend or a boss. It was as if I couldn\u2019t express my own wants and desires, so I lived totally and utterly to please others.<\/p>\n
Looking back I know that I didn\u2019t think I was good enough or worthy enough to be who I was or to ask for what I wanted. I\u2019d hide behind the fa\u00e7ade of someone who was a good laugh, up for anything and made sure I didn\u2019t shine bright enough to dull anyone else\u2019s shine.<\/p>\n
This was until about a year ago, I\u2019d split with my boyfriend with whom I still wore a mask and pretended to be the \u2018right<\/em>\u2019 girl. I\u2019d had enough, enough of being someone I wasn\u2019t and living a life that was as far from what I\u2019d ever envisioned my life to turn out.<\/p>\n So I ended my relationship, feeling completely relieved and ready to start working towards my own dreams and desires. For once in my life, I was finally thinking of myself and only myself.\u00a0 I had to you see, if I didn\u2019t I\u2019d end up exactly where I was again, in a dead end relationship<\/a> trying to fake it.<\/p>\n Being selfish sometimes isn\u2019t a bad thing<\/strong>, it means taking the time out to look at what you want out of life, deciding to act upon it and putting everything else on the \u2018back burner<\/em>\u2019 for a while.<\/p>\n This has to be the number one priority of a \u2018selfish<\/em>\u2019 person.\u00a0 For anyone to truly find out who they are and what they want out of life, it\u2019s very important to create space and time on your own.<\/p>\n When you spend time on your own, you get a chance to work out what really makes you tick, what makes you happy and whether the person you are on the outside is really who you are deep inside. When you are constantly around other people, you tend not to be as honest as you would like and you don\u2019t get a good chance at delving deeper and reflecting on who you are as a person<\/strong>.<\/p>\n When you are selfish you tend not to agree with everything or go along with what other people want all the time.\u00a0 Saying \u2018no\u2019 is a big stepping stone into discovery what matters to you and what is important in your life. You don\u2019t need to worry about what other people think of you just because you say \u2018no\u2019 that little bit more.<\/p>\n If they know and accept you as you are they\u2019ll understand. Saying \u2018no\u2019 is very liberating because it exercises your confidence muscles and helps to put your priorities into perspective. This is about making you the best person you can be, by being real and honest. Saying no when you want to say no, is a huge part of that.<\/p>\n This can be anything from ending a relationship, because you both have different dreams for the future, to telling your parents that you don\u2019t want to study as a doctor just because she wants you to. It\u2019s about doing things for yourself because you want to, and not because other people want you to do things to make them happy.<\/p>\n Life isn\u2019t about people-pleasing, it\u2019s about finding out what you want out of life, where you need to be and how you are going to get there. If you don\u2019t follow your heart, you\u2019ll only end up miserable which in turn makes everyone else just as unhappy as you!<\/p>\n You don\u2019t want any regret in life, so start to weed those people and circumstances that are keeping you from being happy.<\/p>\nSo I thought I\u2019d share some of the ways being selfish is a good thing because you might just need to know that it\u2019s OK:<\/h2>\n
Spending time on your own so you can work out who you are<\/h3>\n
Saying \u2018no\u2019 more often<\/h3>\n
Get rid of what\u2019s keeping you from being happy<\/h3>\n
Find out what your bliss is and follow that<\/h3>\n