{"id":28601,"date":"2017-10-25T22:53:10","date_gmt":"2017-10-25T19:53:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=28601"},"modified":"2017-10-25T22:53:10","modified_gmt":"2017-10-25T19:53:10","slug":"attachment-issues","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/attachment-issues\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Types of Attachment Issues and How They Could Be Ruining Your Love Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you have problems with your love life that seem to occur time and time again, you might have attachment issues that arise from your childhood.<\/h2>\n

To find out if you have attachment issues, first of all, you need to explore your childhood and your relationships with your parents.<\/p>\n

No, we are not going into deep psychotherapy with you, but how you grew up and your experiences with your parents have been proven to shape your adult relationships<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Attachment theory was first coined by psychologist John Bowlby, who put forward the idea that it was a child\u2019s first interactions with their primary caregiver (usually their parents<\/em>) that had a huge influence on their later relationships.<\/p>\n

If a child felt secure and loved it was likely it would go on to form healthy partnerships in adult life<\/a>. If a child was ignored, abused or neglected in some way<\/strong>, it would grow up to have attachment issues in later life.<\/p>\n

There are four different kinds of attachment patterns that arise from childhood experiences:<\/h3>\n
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  1. Secure:<\/strong> These people typically had a good relationship with their parents and felt safe and secure whilst growing up.<\/li>\n
  2. Anxious-preoccupied:<\/strong> Growing up as children where their needs were not met, now as adults they want to be loved but don\u2019t think they are worth the attention and come across as needy.<\/li>\n
  3. Dismissive-avoidant:<\/strong> These people do not need others to give them validation and are dismissive of everything to do with relationships and love.<\/li>\n
  4. Fearful-avoidant:<\/strong> Fearful avoidants want to get close but are afraid of getting hurt in the process.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Any attachment style<\/a> you acquire will be based on your relationship with your parent or primary caregiver and how they took care of you. Depending on which attachment type you are<\/strong> will decide what kind of attachment issues you will have.<\/p>\n

    Before you can work on changing your attachment issues you first need to find out which one you have.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Issues:<\/h4>\n