{"id":28601,"date":"2017-10-25T22:53:10","date_gmt":"2017-10-25T19:53:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=28601"},"modified":"2017-10-25T22:53:10","modified_gmt":"2017-10-25T19:53:10","slug":"attachment-issues","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/attachment-issues\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Types of Attachment Issues and How They Could Be Ruining Your Love Life"},"content":{"rendered":"
To find out if you have attachment issues, first of all, you need to explore your childhood and your relationships with your parents.<\/p>\n
No, we are not going into deep psychotherapy with you, but how you grew up and your experiences with your parents have been proven to shape your adult relationships<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Attachment theory was first coined by psychologist John Bowlby, who put forward the idea that it was a child\u2019s first interactions with their primary caregiver (usually their parents<\/em>) that had a huge influence on their later relationships.<\/p>\n If a child felt secure and loved it was likely it would go on to form healthy partnerships in adult life<\/a>. If a child was ignored, abused or neglected in some way<\/strong>, it would grow up to have attachment issues in later life.<\/p>\n Any attachment style<\/a> you acquire will be based on your relationship with your parent or primary caregiver and how they took care of you. Depending on which attachment type you are<\/strong> will decide what kind of attachment issues you will have.<\/p>\n Before you can work on changing your attachment issues you first need to find out which one you have.<\/strong><\/p>\n People who have anxious-preoccupied attachment issues are desperate for safety and security because they did not receive it as a child. In this respect, they are looking for someone to save them, a kind of fantasy figure that will swoop down and rescue them.<\/p>\n They tend to cling to their partners and are desperately insecure but it is these very actions that push their partners away.<\/p>\n Anyone who has dismissive-avoidant attachments tends to be isolated and emotionally distant from their partners. They find it hard to be emotionally intimate and prefer to focus all their attention on themselves.<\/p>\n They have a tendency to want a lot of alone or \u2018me\u2019 time and think they can solve their own problems. They appear cold-hearted and can seem to be made of stone.<\/p>\n This is a tricky place to be, one in which you are scared to be in a relationship<\/a> but also fearful of being alone. As such, these individuals often find they are in dramatic relationships that are full of passion and roller-coaster rides where arguments and break-ups reign.<\/p>\n These people often cling to their partners but then feel enormously trapped when that same partner reciprocates that emotion. They are the most prone to ending up in a violent relationship because of this constant shifting of emotional behaviour.<\/p>\n Once you have learned which attachment issue you have you can then work towards forming secure attachments. This is achieved by choosing partners who already have a secure attachment style and\/or attending therapy to understand why your childhood experiences impacted your adult relationships.<\/p>\n Once you begin to develop new attachment styles you will be able to form healthier relationships<\/strong> and put the past childhood maladaptive patterns to bed.<\/p>\n References<\/strong>:<\/p>\n If you have problems with your love life that seem to occur time and time again, you might have attachment issues that arise from your childhood. To find out if you have attachment issues, first of all, you need to explore your childhood and your relationships with your parents. 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Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Issues:<\/h4>\n
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Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment Issues:<\/h4>\n
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Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Issues:<\/h4>\n
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