{"id":27495,"date":"2017-09-14T19:48:00","date_gmt":"2017-09-14T16:48:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=27495"},"modified":"2022-11-03T00:44:48","modified_gmt":"2022-11-02T21:44:48","slug":"avoidant-attachment-style","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/avoidant-attachment-style\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Signs Your Partner Has an Avoidant Attachment Style and How to Deal with Them"},"content":{"rendered":"
Does your partner’s avoidant attachment style<\/em> rattle your nerves?<\/p>\n It’s frustrating when someone is unresponsive to your attempts at bonding<\/a> or kindness. You may suspect that your significant other has an avoidant attachment style but aren’t sure. Here are the signs that he or she does and how to deal with them.<\/p>\n Avoidant Attachment sounds like an oxymoron, but we should understand the words in the literal sense. They mean, as suggested, to avoid becoming attached emotionally.<\/p>\n People with Avoidant Attachment styles struggle with intimacy issues. They may create situations that destroy their relationships,<\/strong> albeit unconsciously. They will also pull away<\/a> from their loved ones when they sense too much closeness.<\/p>\n People who have such emotional styles tend to disregard the feelings of others<\/strong>. They also forget their own. They often see expressing emotions as a weakness. It goes without saying that they don’t handle negative situations like awkwardness and failure well.<\/p>\n People who have an avoidant attachment approach to relationships are either fearful of intimacy or dismissive of their partners’ feelings.<\/p>\n Those who are Dismissive-Avoidant<\/a> tend to distance<\/a> themselves emotionally from their partners. They brush feelings aside and devalue human connections.<\/p>\n People with Fearful-Avoidant Attachment<\/a> patterns are ambivalent and afraid of commitment. They strike a balance in relationships in an attempt to avoid being too close or distant. They want to have their emotional needs met, but fear being too close.<\/p>\n Fearful-Avoidants try to rein in their feelings, but can’t. Consequently, they feel overwhelmed by their worries and have emotional storms. Their moods are unpredictable. As a result, they have relationships with many highs and lows.<\/p>\n Then, there are the Anxious-Preoccupied Avoidants<\/a>. A person who has this type of attachment style is preoccupied with his or her relationships. He or she reads too much into social interactions and is over-sensitive. He or she tends to choose a Dismissive Avoidant partner. Of course, the combination is volatile.<\/p>\n If your partner uses an avoidant attachment style to relate to you, you may recognize these behavioral patterns<\/a>.<\/p>\n First of all, Avoidants cherish their space. To protect it, they enforce boundaries<\/a> between themselves and their significant others. These are either physical or emotional; they may sleep in separate rooms or hide information from their partners.<\/p>\n Avoidants don’t disclose their deepest feelings to their significant others because they have a strong sense of emotional independence. Also, it would bring them closer to their partners, which they want to avoid.<\/p>\n Avoidants prefer casual to intimate relationships because they want to avoid closeness. They don’t wish to worry about their partner’s feelings<\/a> after intercourse.<\/p>\n Avoidants treat their significant others like business partners because they feel solely responsible for their well-being. Therefore, they seldom discuss emotions. They often describe their partners as ‘needy<\/a>‘.<\/p>\n Avoidants need love like everyone else, so they will miss their partners when they are not around. Once their partners return, they feel ‘trapped’ and hanker after space again.<\/p>\n Shunning intimacy is another trait of Avoidants<\/em>. They are loving and supportive viz other aspects of the relationship (e.g., finance, health<\/em>) but pull away at any sign of closeness.<\/p>\n Furthermore, Avoidants dwell on past relationships<\/a> to give themselves excuses not to deal with current ones. They may also fantasize about perfect relationships<\/a> so that they’ll have reasons to feel that their present partners aren’t right for them.<\/p>\n Moreover, avoidants tend to send mixed messages to their partners. They’ll want to move in with them one day and ignore them the next. The mixed signals leave their partners in a tailspin.<\/p>\n Consequently, Avoidant partners cherish independence. They are firmly self-reliant and condescend to those who need others. Conversely, those who are secure realize the need for both freedom and partnership.<\/p>\n Finally, Avoidants are reluctant to discuss marriage because it entails commitment<\/a>. They see it as a huge infringement on their space.<\/p>\n An avoidant attachment style<\/strong> of managing relationships has subtle but harmful effects<\/em>.<\/p>\n Fearful Avoidants will struggle to remain close to their partners. They will obsess over their partners not loving them and have mood swings. Of course, this puts a strain on their romantic relationships<\/a>.<\/p>\n Anxious-Preoccupied Avoidants create endless cycles of self-fulfilling prophecies. They avoid intimacy with their partners but will say ‘I knew it! You don’t love me<\/em>!’ when their significant others pull away. You can see the irony in these situations; the constant strain ends the relationship.<\/p>\n Dismissive Avoidants know that they have difficulty expressing feelings and seek vulnerable, open partners to fill the gap. However, they can’t reciprocate their partners’ openness. Consequently, their romances suffer.<\/p>\n Ms. Genevieve Beaulieu Pelletier, who studied these personalities, found that Avoidants were most likely to cheat on their partners. Most of them cited fear of commitment<\/a> and a desire for personal boundaries.<\/p>\nWhat Is an Avoidant Attachment Style?<\/h2>\n
Avoidant Attachment Style: The Types<\/h3>\n
10 Signs That Your Partner Has an Avoidant Attachment Style<\/h3>\n
1. Avoidants stress boundaries<\/h4>\n
2. Avoidants are uncomfortable with deep feelings<\/h4>\n
3. Avoidants prefer casual intimate relationships<\/h4>\n
4. Avoidants disregard feelings<\/h4>\n
5. Avoidants want their partners but not their presence<\/h4>\n
6. Avoidants are uncomfortable with intimate situations<\/h4>\n
7. Avoidants idealize other relationships<\/h4>\n
8. Avoidants send mixed signals<\/h4>\n
9. Avoidants are independent<\/h4>\n
10. Avoidants are non-committal<\/h4>\n
Effects of an Avoidant Attachment Style<\/h3>\n
Relating to a Partner Who Has an Avoidant Attachment Style<\/h3>\n