{"id":25394,"date":"2017-07-14T11:08:07","date_gmt":"2017-07-14T08:08:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=25394"},"modified":"2022-09-03T20:47:54","modified_gmt":"2022-09-03T17:47:54","slug":"brutally-honest-truths","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/brutally-honest-truths\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Brutally Honest Truths No One Told You about Relationships with Other People"},"content":{"rendered":"
There are some brutally honest truths you should know about other people, or order to have a healthy relationship<\/a>.<\/p>\n I believe I\u2019ve been in my fair share of relationships<\/strong>, be it intimate relationships, friendships or even family situations. I can tell you right now, it\u2019s not what it looks like<\/strong> in the movies, magazines or even what you see on the streets.<\/p>\n There is a raw truth which lies beneath all that laughter, cuddling and hugging that you admire so much. In fact, the brutally honest truth is, relationships with others can be ugly, hideous even.<\/p>\n As far as intimate relationships<\/a> go, being brutally honest can save you loads of time<\/strong> on your daydreaming. Remember the story about the hero, the knight, or whatever your culture told you when you were a little girl? Think about the things you read in fairy tale books about princes and princesses, living a \u201cHappily ever after\u201d life, yeah, that\u2019s not as true.<\/p>\n That was just something to get you to sleep at night<\/strong>. If I am being brutally honest with you, that knight is just a boy dressed In tinfoil and the girl is a drama queen. Do you get my drift?<\/p>\n And no it\u2019s not all bad, there are so many things you gain from being in a relationship<\/strong> with others, like learning what unconditional love<\/a> is and being able to live with another individual. Those things are important and show you how to truly care for each other.<\/p>\n But back to what I was saying, there are brutally honest truths, 8 of them to be exact. You will always want to think about these things before you dive into a relationship with anybody<\/strong>, even before you choose your best friend. I don\u2019t care how much you love someone, there is no such thing as perfection.<\/p>\n Now, I do believe in love. I just wanted to make that clear<\/strong> before continuing. However, there are many times when other feelings look a lot like love but aren\u2019t.<\/p>\n Sometimes, and I hate to burst your bubble, other people will use you<\/strong>. They will find your life to be worthy of gossip and will want to be around you just to have something to talk about. Be careful and watch for signs of these types of people.<\/p>\n Never fall for the message that says, \u201cI\u2019m sorry I didn\u2019t text you back. I was busy.\u201d First of all, it doesn\u2019t take that long to send a message to someone you love. It\u2019s all about priorities<\/strong> and what they rather are doing at the moment.<\/p>\n Now, it is possible that they forget, but many times people just choose whether to respond or call. Don\u2019t be fooled by this and try not to get your expectations too high<\/a>. Lofty expectations almost always fail<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Never be fooled by the first impression<\/a> or even the impression you\u2019ve gained after a few months. Everyone is different than what they display to you. The thing is, human beings cannot help but show the best part<\/strong> of themselves when they want something.<\/p>\n I think it\u2019s an instinct. Be warned, there are always dark sides<\/strong> and things you don\u2019t know which may stay hidden for years, even. Remember, it\u2019s just about what you\u2019re willing to live with that\u2019s important. And that\u2019s the brutally honest truth.<\/p>\n No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to make all people happy<\/strong> all the time. It\u2019s just impossible. Be realistic. If you can manage to be fair and live with a clear conscious, then this is good enough<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Get it through your head right now, you cannot please all your friends and loved ones at all times!<\/p>\n Just because you believe one way doesn\u2019t mean your friends should think in the same manner. Everyone has their own mind and they think from certain levels.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t mean higher or lower levels, what I\u2019m saying is that we all have different views on reality<\/strong> and how we should act and react toward things that happen. Try not to be judgmental<\/strong> when you notice that you are different from your lover or friend. This is just one of those things that you will have to accept.<\/p>\n No one but you is responsible for making you happy. No matter how much you have in common or how wonderful you are treated by another, there will be times when they cannot make you happy<\/strong>.<\/p>\n That\u2019s because this is not their job! Guess what!? You can make yourself happy all alone<\/a>, and then when you are happy, you can share this with others, who also make their own happiness. This is what\u2019s called a \u201chealthy relationship<\/strong>\u201d.<\/p>\n Things don\u2019t always have to be harmonious in your relationship. As mentioned above, people have varied perspectives and this is bound to cause disagreements. It\u2019s the way you fight<\/strong> that matters.<\/p>\n Healthy disagreements<\/a> shouldn’t cause you to throw insults or get physically abusive. If this happens, you have crossed a line in your relationship with others. As long as you can communicate your differences<\/strong>, you will be fine.<\/p>\n One of the most brutally honest truths about relationships is that you will always come first<\/strong>. No matter how considerate you are, or how much you sacrifice for your friends, you will do things with your safety in mind, or your happiness at the forefront.<\/p>\nThe knight on the white horse<\/h2>\n
The hard facts and honest truths about relationships<\/h3>\n
True love is rare<\/h4>\n
People have priorities\/ no one is too busy<\/h4>\n
Everyone has a bad side<\/h4>\n
You can\u2019t please everyone<\/h4>\n
Everyone has a different perspective<\/h4>\n
You are responsible for your own happiness<\/h4>\n
It\u2019s okay to get mad. It\u2019s okay to fight<\/h4>\n
Ultimately, it\u2019s all about \u00a0\u201c#1\u201d<\/h4>\n