{"id":24960,"date":"2017-06-11T07:00:38","date_gmt":"2017-06-11T04:00:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=24960"},"modified":"2020-09-03T14:15:59","modified_gmt":"2020-09-03T14:15:59","slug":"perfect-woman-society","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/perfect-woman-society\/","title":{"rendered":"What It Takes to Be a Perfect Woman in Today\u2019s Society"},"content":{"rendered":"
I\u2019m going to try not to get too emotional while writing this, as I am not the ideal mother or the perfect woman.<\/p>\n
I am deeply flawed<\/strong> and far from the female, bragged about in Proverbs 31 (It\u2019s a book in the Christian Bible which explains what the perfect woman should be<\/em>). Yeah, this is not me!<\/p>\n Society has placed pressures<\/strong> on women. They must be great mothers, excellent workers, if they decide to work, which is not preferred by society, to be honest, and sexy as well. Yes, I said the \u201cs\u201d word, because I need you to understand how important society thinks it is to do the impossible<\/strong> and look good in the process!<\/p>\n I was talking to my boyfriend. I told him that one reason why women were so competitive is because of society\u2019s expectations<\/strong>.<\/p>\n And I was distraught, finally falling apart from the fatigue<\/strong> of trying to be a perfect female. I know he means well, but the look on his face told me that he was overwhelmed and really didn\u2019t understand. So, who will hear us?<\/p>\n Okay, so I cried, let it all out and then moved on. Basically, I didn\u2019t want to feel \u201cnot good enough\u201d anymore. So, that\u2019s why I\u2019m standing my ground<\/strong>. I\u2019m going to fight back against these expectations<\/a>. I have prepared a list of \u201cperfect woman\u201d qualities so that you can see what a woman is supposed to be<\/strong> according to society.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re looking for the perfect female, here\u2019s your sign!<\/p>\n Let me get this one out of the way because it is the worst! Society says, as women, we should look good. That\u2019s fine, I get it, it\u2019s good to be attractive, but what is beauty?<\/p>\n Who sets the standards for what beautiful<\/a> should be? Did you know that there are different ideas of beauty<\/strong> from around the world? What is seen as beautiful<\/a> in the United States may not be attractive in Europe or Asia. Actually, it\u2019s quite different for sure.<\/p>\n Regardless, it goes deeper than that<\/strong>. There is three times more emphasis placed on women to look \u201cpretty\u201d, just take a look at the cosmetic<\/a> industry, clothing and shoes!<\/p>\n Yes, men\u2019s apparel is gaining a wider variety, but it has nothing on what\u2019s targeted at the female customer. Let\u2019s just be honest, the body shaming, the harassment, and competition \u2013 it\u2019s getting out of hand<\/strong> with this stuff, wouldn\u2019t you think?<\/p>\n Society says that the perfect woman is beautiful, put together and sexy. Her looks are the first thing that men or other women notice. The mind of the woman is noticed much later<\/strong>, sometimes as long as after marriage even.<\/p>\n There are unreal expectations for women<\/strong> to constantly adjust their physical appearance, and it is damaging to their mental health.<\/p>\n This may not be a universal preference, but it is a common one. Many men or other members of society prefer that women not enter the workforce.<\/p>\n Most of these beliefs come from old-fashioned standards<\/a> or religious views<\/strong>. Speaking of religion, did you know that in some beliefs, women cannot be pastors, preachers or teachers according to the scriptures? It\u2019s true, but hey, I don\u2019t listen to that.<\/p>\n Society has created\u00a0an image of women\u00a0that does not include work tools or equipment. The perfect woman is seen with homemaker tools instead, which show you just how thinking is still so primitive<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Most women resent this preference, as well, and still strive to break this stereotypical view<\/strong> of women. I congratulate every single woman<\/a> who fights this ideal. Thank you!<\/p>\n Kind of on the flip side lies the idea that any work done at home is not work<\/strong> at all. I am a writer, I write almost every day, in some form or for some client. I spend more time working on my writing sometimes than an individual working an outside job, but to others, I still need to \u201cgo get a job\u201d.<\/p>\n Sometimes, I even forget to eat because of pressing deadlines. I would call this work because it is! They would not call this work<\/strong> and so I need to dress up, go out, and drop physical applications.<\/p>\n The problem with society is that work from home is never seen as important. They may claim that you have a job<\/strong>, but deep down, they really don\u2019t believe it<\/strong>.<\/p>\n I have had so many people comment on how easy it must be to work in my pajamas and take breaks whenever I want. There is truth in that statement, but the statement only covers a small percentage<\/strong> of what working from home entails.<\/p>\n Not only do women have to complete their work-at-home assignments<\/strong>, as with freelancers, they also have to make sure the homemaker duties are completed as well, especially if no one else in the household will help them. Sorry, my \u201cpersonal vendetta against shallow judgment<\/strong>\u201d is showing again. Forgive me\u2026.<\/p>\n I honestly believe there are more male chefs than female, but I could be wrong. Society believes, however, that every single woman should have the inborn talent to create<\/strong> an edible masterpiece.<\/p>\n I remember a statement from my childhood when my father reprimanded me for playing outside instead of helping my mother in the kitchen.<\/p>\n \u201cNo man will ever marry you if you cannot cook or clean.\u201d<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n That\u2019s really sexist, isn\u2019t it? Well, my father was serious, and in the early 80s, my mother was still doing all these things without my father\u2019s help. In fact, she worked a full-time job, cooked two meals a day and cleaned\/washed and dusted at every other moment in-between. Her life was a testament to that Proverbs 31 woman<\/strong> I mentioned before.<\/p>\n This is what society says: Every woman must be a role model<\/strong> for little girls. They must have a talent for basic cooking, at least. They must keep their homes clean, dishes and clothes washed and their husbands happy. I feel nauseated, how perfectly hateful<\/strong> and outdated.<\/p>\n Now this one is interesting, and I also fail miserably<\/strong> in this arena. To society, women must be well-mannered, calm and classy. They should know what to wear, at what time, and for whatever function. They must not be rude, burp, fart or laugh too loud. This is the model of a perfect woman, and all of us females should follow the blueprint…not.<\/p>\n I was a tomboy<\/strong> when younger, and still am. When my father told me that no man would marry me, I wiped my muddy hands on my torn dress and laughed at him.<\/p>\n If memory serves me right, I ran into the woods and hid from him. After he called to me a few times, he shook his head and gave up. I was not that classy girl<\/a><\/strong>, and he knew it.<\/p>\n I\u2019m still not that girl. I don\u2019t really care for pleasantries<\/strong> such as knowing which side of my plate to put the salad fork or crossing my legs. Know what? Sometimes I even eat with my hands because, in part of my culture, eating with my hands is acceptable<\/strong>.<\/p>\n I also don\u2019t like wearing dresses all the time or tight formal shoes. I do say, ma\u2019am, although, and I teach my children to do the same. Anyway, I\u2019m not that perfect woman, so move along. When nobody\u2019s looking, most of us aren\u2019t<\/strong>.<\/p>\nWhen it all hit home!<\/h3>\n
What you must do to be the perfect woman<\/h3>\n
She must be pretty\/beautiful\/sexy\/hot<\/h4>\n
She shouldn\u2019t work<\/h4>\n
She should go get a job<\/h4>\n
She must be able to cook, clean and cater to the man<\/h4>\n
She must be \u201cladylike\u201d<\/h4>\n
She\u2019s a great mother<\/h4>\n