{"id":23350,"date":"2017-04-06T23:54:11","date_gmt":"2017-04-06T20:54:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=23350"},"modified":"2017-04-06T23:54:11","modified_gmt":"2017-04-06T20:54:11","slug":"feel-comfortable","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/feel-comfortable\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You in Love or Do You Just Feel Comfortable? How to Tell the Difference"},"content":{"rendered":"
You and your partner may have special places you both like going to, and there’s nothing wrong with that. That said, have an awareness of getting too comfortable<\/strong>. Long-term relationships are stable but may seem mundane. With neither of you complaining, complacency may set in.<\/p>\n The difference between comfort and happiness<\/strong> is a thin line but is very real. How can you spot it? How can you tell if both of you are too complacent about your relationship?<\/p>\n Everyone craves a stable relationship<\/a>. Nothing brings more joy than one that’s fulfilling. If your relationship has a proper foundation, you will not have to worry about becoming complacent. It’s probably on the right track if it has these features. All of them have the common trait of giving and entail the sacrifice of a little comfort.<\/p>\n You should, first of all, love each other. Love is not merely a feeling. If you have a relationship built on love, you will commit to treating your partner honorably and justly.<\/p>\n You would also have a willingness to serve each other. Also, you go out of your way because your partner is deserving.<\/p>\n Your relationship should feature open communication. Both of you should feel free to share things with each other. Honesty allows you to connect. Second-guessing leads to disasters in relationships. You make successful connections when you share feelings.<\/p>\n Time is a precious commodity in this modern era. You may expect your partner to ‘get it right, and get it right at once.’ But reality bites and no one is perfect. You know your relationship is a success if you and your partner have patience with each other.<\/p>\n The next feature of a stable relationship is loyalty. It, of course, should withstand time. Being loyal to each other over many years will take yours to deeper levels.<\/p>\n People in healthy relationships share common goals. You may share the same faith or financial interests. Having a common purpose will hold you together.<\/p>\n At this juncture, you may feel that your relationship has all the essentials for stability. You may also wonder why feeling too comfortable isn’t ideal.<\/p>\n There’s a line between a happy relationship and one that’s merely satisfactory. The key lies in identifying that difference.<\/p>\n First of all, you will have a sense of contentment if you honestly feel happy with your relationship. You will have no problem wanting to satisfy each other’s wants. If you only feel comfortable, you will react with indifference if someone asks if you are happy.<\/p>\n If you are satisfied with your relationship, you will find little moments exciting. Attending picnics and social gatherings will not seem like going through the motions.<\/p>\n Also, a happy relationship has an element of certainty. You will know for sure that your partner is the person you want to come home to after a long day at work. If you want your partner’s presence simply because be or she fills the loneliness gap, you may have a ‘comfort’ and not a ‘love’ relationship.<\/p>\n If you are in a happy relationship, both of you want to work together to improve your lives. Change is life’s only constant. Relationships need to evolve to have any meaning. You will look forward to the future, planning for a new home, your marriage, and your children.<\/p>\n Whereas if you are too comfortable in your relationship, you would feel satisfied the way things are and not want to make plans with each other.<\/p>\n Lastly, if you are in a happy relationship, any effort that you put into it will seem worthwhile. You will feel delighted showering each other with gifts and words of love. Conversely, if both you just feel comfortable, you will assume that the relationship does not need any effort to work.<\/p>\nEveryone wants stability in their relationships<\/h3>\n
1. Love<\/h4>\n
2. Service<\/h4>\n
3. Honesty<\/h4>\n
4. Patience<\/h4>\n
5. Loyalty<\/h4>\n
6. Shared Purpose<\/h4>\n
The difference between love and comfort<\/h3>\n
1. Fulfillment versus Indifference<\/h4>\n
2. Nonchalance versus Excitement<\/h4>\n
3. Ambivalence versus Surety<\/h4>\n
4. Stagnant versus Growing<\/h4>\n
5. Effort versus Worthwhile<\/h4>\n
Other ways to know when the comfort has gotten too much<\/h3>\n