{"id":23238,"date":"2017-03-27T22:19:24","date_gmt":"2017-03-27T19:19:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=23238"},"modified":"2017-03-27T22:19:24","modified_gmt":"2017-03-27T19:19:24","slug":"toxic-family-members-recognition","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/toxic-family-members-recognition\/","title":{"rendered":"Toxic Family Members and How to Recognize Them"},"content":{"rendered":"

The words “toxic family members<\/span>“make my stomach turn. Let me help you recognize these people and improve your relationship with them.<\/h2>\n

First off, it\u2019s hard to talk about something that has impacted my life with such fierce control<\/strong>. This is especially true if you\u2019re still dealing with said toxic family members. Oftentimes, I\u2019d rather talk about something else to keep from becoming overwhelmed with indecision. But I can’t run anymore<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I get it, I do. I see toxic members of my family on a regular basis and it takes all my strength to endure their presence.<\/strong> And it doesn\u2019t matter if I\u2019m quiet or I speak out, they will get a rise out of me one way or the other. I cringe in their presence, I do, and I walk on eggshells.<\/p>\n

I guess I sound cruel, but until you\u2019ve lived through this, you cannot understand the magnitude of their negative influence.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not so easy to recognize them either. Unless you\u2019ve been educated on what toxic people<\/a> are, you will suffer in many unimaginable ways and live in constant self-criticism<\/strong>. So, it\u2019s imperative that you remove the veil<\/strong> of what you thought they were, and see the truth for yourself.<\/p>\n

1. Controlling<\/h3>\n

Across the board, one of the most commonly known characteristics of toxic family members<\/em> is their desire to control everything<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Of course there are some things in the universe they cannot control, but believe me, many of them will try to convince you otherwise. Toxic people<\/strong> try to control the conversation<\/strong>, all outcomes<\/strong> and even how you feel<\/strong> about yourself.<\/p>\n

They generally use manipulation<\/strong> in order to gain this control. You see it often in unhealthy relationships<\/a>, where toxic partners strive to control every aspect of the union. And it\u2019s not usually blatant control either, it\u2019s subtle<\/strong> and derives from the aftermath of their partner’s destroyed self-esteem, which is also there doing.<\/p>\n

2. Liars<\/h3>\n

Most toxic people are liars<\/strong>. This trait is so deeply woven that they believe their own lies, well most of them. The objective of a toxic individual is to tell whatever lie is necessary in order to keep themselves on top.<\/p>\n

Also, their lack of empathy<\/strong> prevents them from feeling bad about lying. It\u2019s like second nature<\/strong> to a toxic human being.<\/p>\n

3. Arrogant<\/h3>\n

I\u2019ve watched the arrogant beast<\/a> strut back and forth in my kitchen many times, and proclaim how successful he is. Just kidding, it was just one of several toxic family members. These guys love to talk about their accomplishments<\/strong> and they need fan clubs<\/strong> as well. Toxic people thrive off being in the spotlight<\/strong>, all while criticizing everyone else.<\/p>\n

And they hate debates, arguments or heated conversations where it looks like they will be proven wrong. Even calm conversations where differing opinions are present seem to upset them.<\/p>\n

This is because, inside the mind of the toxic person, there is no other logical solution but their own. Everyone else\u2019s ideas are secondary or not important at all. You cannot communicate with a toxic family member<\/strong> either, this will be seen as argumentative behavior.<\/p>\n

4. Addictions<\/h3>\n

Many toxic people in the family environment are also addicts<\/strong>, either to drugs, alcohol or other substances. When you are an addict, negative behaviors will also be amplified.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve known many addicts, was married to one and even had a family member murdered for twenty dollars in the \u201cdope game\u201d. Addictions are shattering lives everywhere, and it\u2019s no wonder that many addicts are toxic<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Alcoholics, for instance, will stop at nothing for a drink, and then want to get behind the wheel of an automobile. Some already have DUI convictions and still,\u00a0they choose to drink and drive regardless.<\/p>\n

The addiction is stronger than common sense<\/strong>. The anger during alcohol<\/a> rampages is a nerve-wracking part of the toxic person\u2019s behavior as well. I learned so much, in my life, that I can sense toxic alcoholic rants as soon as someone opens their mouth. I have a default protocol to protect myself from the onslaught.<\/p>\n

5. Toxic Family Members Are Never Wrong<\/h3>\n

Let me share a short conversation to help you get the full effect of this.<\/p>\n

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