{"id":22051,"date":"2017-01-19T00:38:43","date_gmt":"2017-01-18T21:38:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=22051"},"modified":"2017-01-19T00:38:43","modified_gmt":"2017-01-18T21:38:43","slug":"reasons-be-ok-if-not-everyone-likes-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/reasons-be-ok-if-not-everyone-likes-you\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Reasons Why You Should Be OK If Not Everyone Likes You"},"content":{"rendered":"
If you are trying to please everyone, here are some reasons to be OK with the idea that not everyone likes you.<\/p>\n
It is easy to spot people pleasers<\/a>. They are so nice that you feel uncomfortable. If you point out a flaw, they will do their best to cajole you and make sure that you do not feel offended.<\/p>\n Their over-trying ways leave you with a sense of guilt<\/strong>. You feel as though you did nothing to deserve the royal treatment. Ironically, it is that very behavior that causes people to disrespect them.<\/p>\n While you should always try your level best to get along with others, you should never compromise your beliefs and integrity<\/strong>. The key is to maintain your boundaries, and remember that it is alright that you cannot sway every one of them.<\/p>\n How many people should like me; you may ask. Relationship experts suggest that a good number is 85%<\/strong>. Your behavior is probably off the mark if the number falls too much below this.<\/p>\n If 100% of the people who meet you like you, congratulations because you have attained perfection. Of course, each person, without exception, has room to learn and grow<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Of course, one should never consciously offend people, and you probably do not. However, you may unwittingly do a few things that make people annoyed with you<\/a>.<\/p>\n Perhaps your interpersonal skills<\/a> are not the best, so you figure that you have to keep your opinions to yourself, lest you say the wrong thing. Without the other party’s hearing, however, you may express them voluminously.<\/p>\n Not only are you passive-aggressive<\/a>, but are also portraying yourself as high and mighty. Another faux pas people make is to accidentally assert power over others<\/strong>. This social mistake is probably the most common.<\/p>\n You may tell your friends about the successful date you had without realizing one or two of them had just broken up with their better halves. You come across as arrogant and trying to have “one up” over them, without that intention.<\/p>\n The problem doubles for women, who tend to subject themselves to the power play<\/em>, often without realizing it. It is easy to fall into such traps. Because you were not one of the coolest kids on the block, you assume that status will never be yours.<\/p>\n You think that everyone else is more confident than you are and that they do not have issues. Nothing could be further from the truth.<\/p>\n No one likes having others dislike them, but reality bites<\/strong>. It may come as a surprise that popular people have their detractors. Remember that everyone has a right to their viewpoints<\/strong>, and do not always have to agree with you.<\/p>\n Here are a few good reasons to be OK with the fact that not everyone likes you and you don’t have to please everyone:<\/p>\n Consider this. When you are not concerned about how well people like you, you can speak your mind freely<\/strong>. You will not have to worry about others judging you. You can explore your feelings freely.<\/p>\n Choose any famous celebrity, and you will discover his many anti-fans<\/strong>. The more popular you become, the more subject you are to scrutiny. You will deal with it better if you are prepared to be OK with the fact that not\u00a0everyone likes you.<\/p>\nHow Many People Should Like You?<\/h2>\n
How You May Make People Dislike You Without Realizing It<\/h3>\n
Reasons Why You Should Be OK if Not Everyone Likes You<\/h3>\n
1. You can speak your mind<\/h4>\n
2. You can prepare for success<\/h4>\n
3. You learn to offer compassion without expectations<\/h4>\n