{"id":21905,"date":"2017-01-07T21:40:16","date_gmt":"2017-01-07T18:40:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=21905"},"modified":"2017-01-07T21:40:16","modified_gmt":"2017-01-07T18:40:16","slug":"nice-girl-syndrome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/nice-girl-syndrome\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Signs You Have a Nice Girl Syndrome Which Stops You from Being Happy"},"content":{"rendered":"

Living as a nice girl<\/em> means you are living a lie. You are lying to yourself and to those around you. By living this way, you lose touch with your true feelings.<\/h2>\n

Below are some signs to look out for if you think you might be a nice girl<\/em>:<\/p>\n

1. Feeling you are not good enough<\/h4>\n

\u201cNice girls\u201d live by the principle that they must be nice to everyone in order for them to be accepted and loved themselves. The idea that you must be nice to everyone is impossible but you won’t recognize that as a nice girl<\/em>. This comes from the idea that you as a person are not good enough and therefore you do everything possible to please people so you are good enough<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

What to do? Well, first of all, you must start accepting and loving yourself. Easy to say but harder to do I hear you cry. Start by once a day looking at yourself in the mirror and saying \u201cI love and accept myself today<\/em>\u201d.<\/p>\n

2. The difficulty saying \u201cno\u201d<\/h4>\n

\u201cNice girls\u201d can\u2019t say no. When a colleague of yours asks for your help with a\u00a0 project they will get all the credit for, you don\u2019t say no. Your colleague has kids and you don\u2019t so you stay late and finish the project off for them. You don\u2019t mind when your colleague gives you zero credit for the project because you are a nice girl.<\/em><\/p>\n

What to do? Start small. Practice small no\u2019s out of work, to begin with. Don\u2019t want to babysit your, nephew\u2026say no! Gym after work with a girlfriend\u2026just say no!\u00a0 Once it starts to become a little easier, start introducing it into your work environment<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

3. Not wanting to rock the boat<\/h4>\n

You are out shopping with your sister, she tries something on that makes her look fat, but you don\u2019t tell the truth, you tell her she looks great, that\u2019s what a nice girl does<\/strong>. You don\u2019t want to hurt her feelings so you don\u2019t tell the truth. You believe that your sister is as sensitive as a crystal glass and that any sort of criticism would destroy her. But the truth is, she can take it.<\/p>\n

What to do? Always be kind. But start small, people will respect far more and your relationship will strengthen<\/a> if you bring a bit of honesty into the mix.<\/p>\n

4. The fear of commitment and impossible relationships<\/h4>\n

As a nice girl, you attract the wrong kind of men. But as you hopefully have come to realize, there is no perfect man just as there is no wrong man. If you look at your past relationships you will see a common theme. That down to a factor, the relationship was never going to last.<\/p>\n

Those factors could be any of the following:<\/h5>\n