{"id":20770,"date":"2016-11-03T21:14:01","date_gmt":"2016-11-03T18:14:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=20770"},"modified":"2016-11-03T21:14:01","modified_gmt":"2016-11-03T18:14:01","slug":"surround-yourself-personal-development","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/surround-yourself-personal-development\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Reasons Why People You Surround Yourself with Are Crucial to Your Personal Development"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you\u2019re on a journey of personal development, the people you surround yourself with really count.<\/h2>\n

Here are a few reasons why the people you surround yourself with can make all the difference:<\/p>\n

1. You need people to\u00a0push you up, not hold you down.<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s important to surround yourself with people who believe in you and your personal vision. When you want to accomplish something, the people who are close to you should be there to keep you on track.<\/p>\n

The worst thing you can do is surround yourself with people<\/a> who envy your every success and try, consciously or unconsciously, to hold you back.<\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t mean that the people around you have to agree with everything you say and do. Constructive criticism is integral to our development.\u00a0<\/strong>We have to recognize our bad habits and the things we\u2019re doing that might be holding us back.<\/p>\n

You can\u00a0recognize when the criticism you\u2019re getting is meant to destroy your confidence<\/a>\u00a0and when it\u2019s meant to help you be more effective.<\/p>\n

For example, someone who tells you that you\u2019re not doing enough to market your abilities is giving you constructive criticism.<\/p>\n

Someone\u00a0telling\u00a0you that you\u2019ve become boring and you need to party more is probably thinking more about themselves than you.<\/p>\n

2. Surround yourself with people who are genuinely interested in\u00a0you.<\/h3>\n

Your friends never ask about what you\u2019re doing. They seem to show no interest whatsoever in your aspirations<\/a>.\u00a0Well, I’m sorry to say you’ve probably\u00a0got the wrong people around you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s soul-destroying\u00a0when the people who you\u2019re closest to don\u2019t seem to care about the individual you are and the things you\u2019ve got to offer.<\/p>\n

If you feel that you\u2019re getting no encouragement from your friends, maybe it\u2019s time to make some new ones. Go to the kinds of places where you\u2019ll find like-minded people.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A great way to do this can be signing up for seminars about your field of interest. You\u2019re bound to meet people who are going in the same direction as you. they’ll also be able to help you on\u00a0your\u00a0way.<\/p>\n

3. You need support and encouragement in the tough times.<\/h3>\n

Life isn\u2019t easy. When you\u2019re trying to go places, there are inevitably a lot of obstacles on the path. Some of those obstacles are external. You might face rejection<\/a>, rivalry, and even outright opposition from the world at large.<\/p>\n

Some are internal – you lose your motivation and your confidence at times. It\u2019s so important to have a strong base to go back to, to recharge your batteries and regain your confidence.<\/p>\n

Really, if the people you surround yourself with<\/strong> can\u2019t offer you any support in the hard times, what\u2019s the point in having them around?<\/p>\n

4. You need people who are willing to share.<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s so important to gain from other people\u2019s wisdom and experience. Especially when you\u2019re trying to make something of yourself.<\/p>\n

You might have all the talent in the world, but there are things that only a person with experience in your field can help you with.<\/p>\n

The best kinds of people are those who are interested in sharing their insight and the keys<\/strong> to their success<\/a>\u00a0with others.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Somebody who guards those keys jealously and keeps them all to themselves is as worthless to you as someone who hasn\u2019t achieved anything in the first place.<\/p>\n

If you find someone who is willing to help you reach the very same heights they\u2019ve reached themselves, stick with them. Offer them all the love and support<\/strong> you owe them for being the wonderful creature they are.<\/p>\n

5. Surround yourself with people who have\u00a0diverse interests.<\/h3>\n

You don\u2019t always need to be with people who work in the same field as you. In fact, it can be more helpful to spend time with people working in many different fields.<\/p>\n

This has the obvious benefit of reducing the chances that you will become rivals and have a competitive<\/a>\u00a0relationship. But there\u2019s also the other advantage that you\u2019ll end up benefiting from the wisdom that they have to offer about other aspects of life.<\/p>\n

Another reason why having people with diverse skills around you can help is that sometimes you\u2019ll need a hand with things that are not in your own skill-set.<\/p>\n

You might be creative, but another person might be able to help you with your accounts. Another friend could help with technological matters\u00a0and yet another with marketing.<\/p>\n

Not only that, but it can have a great moderating influence on you and the way you think. If you\u2019re always with people who are thinking about the same things you\u2019re thinking about, you can end up getting almost religiously indoctrinated into one kind of thinking.<\/p>\n

This is dangerous. It can mean you lose sight of the bigger picture and have no one to challenge your beliefs. It can make you narrow-minded and blinkered in your vision.<\/p>\n

Keep people around you who are doing their own thing and who can test your assumptions now and then.<\/p>\n

Have you got any other advice to share about the kind of people who can contribute to your personal development? Let us know.<\/p>\n

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