{"id":19452,"date":"2016-08-27T20:27:08","date_gmt":"2016-08-27T17:27:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=19452"},"modified":"2016-08-27T20:27:08","modified_gmt":"2016-08-27T17:27:08","slug":"being-treated-like-a-doormat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/being-treated-like-a-doormat\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Signs That You Are Being Treated Like a Doormat"},"content":{"rendered":"
Of course, there are times when a friend or family member might need to lean on you a little heavier than usual in a time of need.\u00a0 But if you notice consistent patterns of people taking advantage of your kind nature then it\u2019s time to do something about it.<\/p>\n
Here are some ways to tell if you\u2019re being treated like a doormat:<\/strong><\/p>\n Sure, you\u2019re a nice person and you want to help out your friends and family.\u00a0 So you say \u2018yes\u2019 to giving that ride, looking after those kids, joining that PTA, mowing that lawn, cooking for that dinner party, helping with those taxes, picking up that shopping. Sounds familiar?<\/strong> Remember it\u2019s totally ok for you to use your time to make yourself happy and to say no to obligations you don\u2019t want to take on.<\/p>\n If it makes it easier then practice some polite refusal phrases in advance, even something simple like \u2018sorry I don\u2019t have time for that this week\u2019 or \u2018that\u2019s not for me!\u2019. It\u2019s ok to say no, I promise, and the more you say it the more comfortable it becomes!<\/p>\n Not only do you always say yes, but people know you\u2019ll always say yes. So they take advantage of your good nature by asking you for more and more favors. Of course, there\u2019s a difference between a one-off favor and a constant stream of demands.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re being treated like a doormat, you need to start setting strong boundaries<\/a> around what you will and won\u2019t say yes to.<\/p>\n Think about what you have the time and energy to do, limit your favors to those things you enjoy and can do. Communicate your boundaries, what you won\u2019t do, to those treating you like a doormat, and stick to them.<\/p>\n An easy way of telling if you\u2019re being treated like a doormat is to take notice of how people interact with you. Think back over the last few months of interaction with your friends and family.<\/p>\n Who contacts you regularly just to catch up, see how you are or talk about your day? Who only calls to talk about themselves or to ask for something?\u00a0 Perhaps it\u2019s time to make more time for those with a genuine interest in you and less for those who don\u2019t.<\/p>\n After all, those favors the least you would expect a little appreciation or a thank you, right?<\/strong> If you\u2019re being treated like a doormat, then the response you might get from putting yourself out to help others may be that you\u2019re asked to do it again.<\/p>\n It\u2019s even worse if you\u2019re not even asked, it\u2019s just expected of you. It\u2019s difficult to turn this cycle around, distance yourself from people who show little appreciation for your efforts, and remember to practice gratitude<\/a> yourself by thanking those who help you out.<\/p>\n Take note of how you feel day to day, your moods, and your emotions.\u00a0 If you\u2019re feeling bad or sad because your friends are walking all over you, then it\u2019s time to change.\u00a0 If you\u2019re comfortable, try to explain to those taking advantage of you how it feels, and see if their behavior changes.\u00a0 Perhaps write it down or seek out a good friend or therapist to talk things over with.<\/p>\n Most importantly, take care of yourself.\u00a0 Being a doormat can be a sign of low worth, believing that people will like you more if you give them what they want.\u00a0 Instead, you should be giving yourself what you want, you are<\/em> worth it!<\/p>\n Good self-care can increase your confidence!\u00a0 So make sure you\u2019re eating well, getting enough sleep<\/a>, exercising and taking part in activities you enjoy.<\/p>\n The good news is that once you\u2019ve realized you\u2019re being treated like a doormat you can change it!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n If you keep your boundaries strong, practice good self-care, and learn to say no, then your days of being treated like a doormat will be behind you. Where they belong.<\/p>\n References:<\/strong><\/p>\n Being walked all over is a horrible feeling, nobody likes being treated like a doormat. Of course, there are times when a friend or family member might need to lean on you a little heavier than usual in a time of need.\u00a0 But if you notice consistent patterns of people taking advantage of your kind […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":19453,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ocean_post_layout":"","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"","ocean_second_sidebar":"","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"","ocean_custom_header_template":"","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"on","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[58,46,52],"tags":[41,60,316],"yoast_head":"\n1. You can\u2019t say no.<\/h3>\n
2. People take advantage.<\/h3>\n
3. They only call you when they need you.<\/h3>\n
4. You\u2019re unappreciated.<\/h3>\n
5. You feel bad.<\/h3>\n
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