{"id":19036,"date":"2016-07-28T20:49:31","date_gmt":"2016-07-28T17:49:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=19036"},"modified":"2016-07-28T20:49:31","modified_gmt":"2016-07-28T17:49:31","slug":"reasons-stop-justifying-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/reasons-stop-justifying-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Reasons Why You Should Stop Justifying Yourself to Others and Just Do Your Thing"},"content":{"rendered":"
What people think of me is none of my business! After all, I don\u2019t think about them at all. Justifying yourself can simply be defined as explaining who you are, why you are who you are, why you believe what you believe, why you did what you did, why you said what you said.<\/p>\n
By doing so, you have implicitly placed the other person in a position to judge you positively or negatively.\u00a0You don\u2019t have to accept their judgment<\/strong>, but once they have the information (the reasons that you have offered<\/em>), you can\u2019t stop them from passing judgment on you.<\/p>\n And they will<\/strong>. And they probably will say so, either to you or to others. The following are some of the reasons as to why you should stop justifying yourself and just do your thing.<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t love<\/a> or put yourself first, who will? Definitely, no one will even care for someone who does not even care for himself\/herself. You should always give yourself the first priority<\/strong> before giving others.<\/p>\n During a 2011 TV interview, Michelle Obama<\/a> amazed the media by her response to the questioner, they had asked about making her the first priority.<\/p>\n Michelle admitted to making herself her first priority. I wholeheartedly agree with Michelle as there is nobody who will always stay loyal to you and therefore you should always prioritize your needs before others<\/strong>.<\/p>\n What you feel about a certain phenomenon is personal and you have all the reserved rights to express feelings or emotions.\u00a0 The worst thing you can ever do is trying to be sorry for being sensitive<\/a> or emotional after being wronged.<\/p>\n We are all human beings and expressing yourself just shows that you are not afraid of letting others know that you have a big heart hence there is no reason for being ashamed.<\/p>\n It hurts even more when you keep something hurting to yourself rather than speaking it out as nobody knows whether you are comfortable with it or not. Never apologize for expressing your feelings. If you do, you say sorry for the truth.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t need to always give a reason for your decisions<\/a>. Just a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’ should not be questioned by anybody because you have reasons for accepting it or denying it. Nobody should ever force you to accept something you don\u2019t like or something you aren\u2019t comfortable with.<\/p>\n Your assertiveness should be always respected. If for every small decision you make you feel the need to explain why you\u2019ll end up feeling like you always have to justify yourself<\/strong>.<\/p>\n For an instant, it makes no sense for a teenage girl denying strongly having sex with you. It beats logic trying to explain why she is not interested in doing so. A big NO, in this case, is the best response you should expect.<\/p>\n Otherwise, you are not being rude, you\u2019ve just made a decision and answered their question appropriately.<\/p>\n Nobody has the right to intimidate you into having to explain yourself to them<\/strong> and if they do, you have the right to rebuke them. The lower your self-esteem, the more that you will feel that you have to tell others what you are doing.<\/p>\n You must work on how you feel about yourself then until you realize that you are a free adult and you are not answerable to anyone. When you have the need to explain yourself away, stop and ask yourself why you believe (or feel<\/em>) this.<\/p>\n Think logically about your current situation and discover for yourself whether or not the person before you need an explanation of your activities.<\/p>\n Your self-esteem should be given the respect it deserves as what you feel about yourself is the best gift from GOD. However, not all circumstances where this critique is applicable.<\/p>\n For instance, in a job interview, you are required to give a clear explanation about yourself and how you think you will be beneficial to that particular firm. In this case, it is important you give every detail you think is useful for you to secure the job.<\/p>\n However, if you use a logical and objective mind, you will see that there are also many times when there is no need for you to explain yourself in normal circumstances.<\/p>\n Trying to prove and protect, you invent reasons, which appear to be more important than your instincts<\/a>. You begin to sound like the whip you don\u2019t like to be \u2013 instead of the hero, who you really are.<\/p>\n1. There is no harm in putting yourself first<\/h4>\n
2. Need to expressing your feelings<\/h4>\n
3. You have the right to be assertive<\/h4>\n
4. Your self-esteem is of paramount importance<\/h4>\n
5. To avoid victimization<\/h4>\n