{"id":15277,"date":"2016-02-28T20:16:12","date_gmt":"2016-02-28T18:16:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/?p=15277"},"modified":"2016-02-28T20:16:12","modified_gmt":"2016-02-28T18:16:12","slug":"stories-need-stop-telling-yourself-move-forward-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifeadvancer.com\/stories-need-stop-telling-yourself-move-forward-life\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Stories You Need to Stop Telling Yourself to Move Forward in Life"},"content":{"rendered":"
We are all authors. Maybe not published, but authors just the same. We tell our own life stories, or pieces of them anyway, every day.<\/strong> And those stories either place new thoughts and beliefs in our heads or reinforce the stories we have told ourselves before. Those stories either move us forward, keep us in place, or, sometimes, move us backward.<\/p>\n This is a good story start, and we can ruminate on this every day all day. We can have a chapter on our failed relationship; we can have a chapter on how much we dislike our job or our boss;<\/strong> we can have another chapter on how broke we are and how we can\u2019t afford a nicer place or car; and we can have a great concluding chapter on how there is nothing we can really do about our circumstances.<\/p>\n With this story you keep telling yourself, you are just stuck<\/a>. And nothing in your life will change because you are already seeing yourself as defeated.<\/p>\n Getting out of a defeatist mindset is not easy, but it can be done. Look around at your friends. Which of them is moving and growing and is optimistic about his\/her future?<\/strong> Confide in that friend and tell him\/her that you do want to make some changes, but you don\u2019t know how.<\/p>\n Pick one thing from your list of woes, and set a goal that your friend hears you set or helps you set. Now, someone else knows that you have this goal, and you can\u2019t really take it back. With that friend\u2019s help, develop a plan to change just that one thing.<\/p>\n Now, someone else knows about your plan. You own it. That friend will now become your conscience \u2013 reminding you of what action you need to take, encouraging you, and keeping you focused.<\/p>\n If you get one thing changed for the better, you have the \u201cbattle\u201d won. You know you can take charge and make a positive change.<\/p>\n In this story you keep telling yourself, you have several chapters on such things as you are too young to make a leap into starting your own business, or you are too old to take any risks at this stage in your life. A chapter might be on the fact that you have too many obligations right now, and you cannot take on anything new<\/strong>.<\/p>\nSo what stories are you telling yourself today? Here are 4 that you must stop telling yourself.<\/h2>\n
1. There is so much wrong in my life.<\/h4>\n
2. This is really not a good time to make any changes.<\/h4>\n