Although you may not actually realise it, you (and your partner) have been guilty of stonewalling one another at one point in your relationship. It is something that we all do from time to time and don't see it as being particularly bad, but the effects it can have on a relationship are much more serious than you may have thought. Let's discuss what stonewalling actually is first, then look at why it could be ruining your relationship. What Actually Is Stonewalling? You may know
Too much analyzing can be damaging to both your relationship and your mental health. Are you overthinking relationships too much? I have a friend who analyses everything, from conversations, text messages to looks she receives, it’s absolutely exhausting. I understand that as human beings it was extremely important to our survival that we quickly analyzed situations, but let’s face it, this is the 21st century. There are no saber-toothed tigers lurking in the jungle and most of us (thankfully) have what we need in life.
We all have certain relationship expectations. We expect to be loved, to be treated fairly, and not to be let down or lied to. These are perfectly realistic, but when these relationship expectations are set unrealistically high, they can affect us in a negative way. Here are six signs that you have unrealistic relationship expectations and what causes them: 1. Your partner can read your mind Expecting your partner to be a mind-reader is not only unrealistic but completely unfair to them. How would you
If you have problems with your love life that seem to occur time and time again, you might have attachment issues that arise from your childhood. To find out if you have attachment issues, first of all, you need to explore your childhood and your relationships with your parents. No, we are not going into deep psychotherapy with you, but how you grew up and your experiences with your parents have been proven to shape your adult relationships. Attachment theory was first coined by psychologist
Social media users are notorious for poor online conduct. The sweet-tempered secretary who greets you at the office may have a nasty online persona. She is among the social media users who behave one way online, and quite another off. Why the 'split personality? What are the effects of errant conduct on Facebook and Twitter? Why social media users misbehave So, why are people so free with their behavior on social media? Psychologists attribute it to the Online Disinhibition Effect. Simply put, being on the
Relationships can be complicated at the best of times, but there are some relationships that can turn toxic. How to recognize a controlling relationship? This can sneak up on you, or it could happen all at once, but once it happens it can be detrimental to both partners in the relationship, and to those around them. All relationships can be at risk of turning toxic, no matter the age, gender or sexual orientation, so you need to be aware of the signs of a controlling
There are some negative behavior patterns that you may be following unconsciously and that is destroying your self-confidence without you even knowing. You put on your favorite jeans. You just got new shoes and you love them. Your favorite jacket is ready to go. You look good and you know it. Suddenly, the old patterns emerge. You start having doubts. Maybe the jeans are too tight. That other person, who’s always stealing the spotlight, is looking way better than you. What’s going on? Where did
It’s not always easy understanding how to deal with passive aggressive people. They love to make you feel as though you are going crazy. The truth about how to deal with passive aggressive people lies within our ability to stay sane. So basically, they do have the power to drive us crazy, if we let them. Considering I lived for decades with a narcissist, I am pretty familiar with this behavior, and I must admit, it damaged my mental health. Some of you, however, might