There are some tell-tale signs that you are in a relationship with a jealous man. It is important to recognize them in the early stages of the relationship to know how to deal with this type of man.
Jealousy is something that is not specific to one gender or the other. Women can often be just as jealous as men are when they really want to be. However, because of some of the characteristics specific to men, when they are jealous, it can have a more detrimental effect on a relationship than when women are jealous. When you are in a relationship with a jealous man, it can cause problems that need to be addressed before it puts a wedge between you both.
Although it can often seem as if jealousy comes out of nowhere like you are sitting there in a cozy and close relationship that you think just might last forever and jealousy rears its ugly face. However, there are actually tell-tale signs that you are in a relationship with a jealous man. These signs are manifested in certain behaviors and things jealous men do.
In the following post, we will look at some of the things a jealous man can do in a relationship so that you can deal with them.
Interested In Committing Quickly
One clear sign that your man is prone to jealousy as if they are very interested in committing quickly and pushing ahead with the relationship. Do you feel uncomfortable with your man’s attempts to move things forward? If you answer yes, you need to be careful because in a normal situation, when a man likes a woman a lot, he will not rush into committing to her but will think it over and over.
His rush to commit might be the sign that he is overly jealous and has a self-esteem problem, and he wants to ensure he gets you all to himself before you fall for anyone else.
Acts Too Nice
Obviously, people should be nice to one another. This is not what we mean when we suggest a man is acting too nice is a problem or sign of jealousy. However, what we are talking about here is people hiding what they really are – when they are not just nice but overly nice.
Fear is always at the root of jealousy. The fear of losing. And generally speaking, the fear is always born out of low self-confidence and a poor self-image. Men who are not confident often have trouble believing that other people, particularly women, will be attracted to them. This is what often prompts men that are very jealous deep down, to become incredibly nice.
So while niceness is a great quality if it is born out of insecurity, it could be a sign of a jealous man who could transform into a monstrous partner.
He Always Wants To Go With You Everywhere
This is another quality that on the surface may seem pleasing and innocent. After all, who doesn’t want a partner that will go clothes shopping with them and pick them up from work?
However, this trait can be a problem when it feels as if you can’t go anywhere without female friends or on your own. If your man is like this, it could be a sign again of fear, and jealousy. Not love or care. In this situation, it is more likely that he has trouble trusting you, which is why he doesn’t like the idea of you flying solo without him.
Constant Need For Reassurance
In a loving relationship, it is normal for partners to express their love and care for each other. However, if you find that your partner always needs you to reassure him that you do love him and want to be with him, it is probably because of jealousy, resulting from poor self-esteem and self-confidence.
Which could be a really bad thing or something that you both have to overcome. If he becomes violent, for instance, when he doesn’t get that reassurance, then it is not good.
Always Calls You
Men who are jealous, always want to know where you are and what you are doing. Does your partner seem to phone you any waking minute he has a chance to? Does he get upset when he can’t get in contact with you? This is probably a good sign that your boyfriend is overly jealous and may hide a serious anger and violence problem.
If you notice any of these characteristics developing in your partner, then it is not necessarily a sign that you should split up, but you should tread carefully.
How do you deal with a jealous man? We have highlighted some tips below.
As a relationship is meant to be built upon a foundation of trust, if your partner shows signs of jealousy, without any good reason for it, then it may be best to move on.
2. Accept The Issues Behind It
You need to think about whether or not you love him enough to work through issues of jealousy. It is important to get to the root of his insecurity and work on changing it. If you knew he was jealous when you got involved, it might be seen as unfair to dump him without giving him a chance.
3. Work Out The Underlying Cause
It’s impossible to fix the problem of jealousy without getting to the bottom of it. Is it because of bad experiences he had during childhood or has he suffered from a bad break-up?
As always, one of the keys to a good relationship is communication and that includes listening to your other half. When looking into figuring out the problem you need to listen.
By Valerie S.