Do you think that you may not be loving yourself enough? Let’s find out.
My mother always told me that if I didn’t love myself, I couldn’t accept the love that someone else wanted to share with me; and I think she was incredibly insightful when she said that.
We are bombarded with beautiful, successful people on a daily basis, and it’s easy to compare ourselves and put ourselves in second place. It’s high time that we learned to love ourselves and revel in our own accomplishments, rather than constantly put ourselves down by looking at the rare person who manages to break into the television and make us feel bad.
Here are some key signs that you aren’t totally loving yourself, and how to make sure that you are.
1. You don’t feel comfortable in your own company
This is a typical feeling for someone who isn’t totally head over heels in love with themselves. If you aren’t happy in your own company or feel uncomfortable with being alone, it is a sure sign that you need to do a little bit of work on your relationship with, well… you.
2. You Don’t Like Sharing Opinions Or Ideas
If there is a constant nagging in your head telling you that you aren’t good enough or your opinions aren’t worthy, then you need to tell that voice to shut up immediately. Second guessing yourself is a classic sign of a lack of confidence, and it needs fixing ASAP.
3. You’re Not Being True To Your Own Values
Simply put, if you’re sacrificing yourself or your own morals more than is acceptable, then you aren’t being true to yourself and are probably not loving yourself enough. Everyone has to make sacrifices at some point, but if you’re turning into a doormat then you’ve gone too far.
If I’ve caught your attention here then keep reading, because this is easily fixed.
There are 5 simple things that you can do every day in order to build up the foundations of your broken relationship with the person in your mirror.
1. Give Yourself a Compliment
Every morning when I wake up I pick out something that I like about myself and give myself a compliment. This may seem like a small thing, which may not make a difference, but that little perk in the morning puts my day on the right track.
2. Feel Gratitude
Harvard Health has written numerous publications on the positive effects of gratitude. Simply counting your blessings can have marvellous effects on your happiness levels, and really make us feel good about ourselves, and the things that surround us. Take some time to count your blessings, count 5 blessings on one hand and, if you can think of more, then count 10. Taking the time to think of the positives in your life really gets those good endorphins flowing.
3. Be Productive
Nothing can be better than productivity to make us feel proud and share a little bit of love for our accomplishments. Make yourself a to-do list and get cracking. If you want to amp up the pride, set yourself the hard tasks first, sit down, and just do them. The relief of getting the difficult things done, and the pride of actually doing them, is bound to repair some of the cracks in your relationship.
4. Pamper Yourself
Making yourself feel special is one of the best things when it comes to loving yourself. Set aside an evening and have a bath, put a facemask on, and light some candles. Getting yourself relaxed and feeling fresh is a great start when it comes to loving yourself a little bit more. Having the time to relax and feel pampered will really help in getting used to your own company, and learning to love it.
5. Get Active
Exercise is a great stress reliever; it gets your blood pumping and produces the all-important endorphins to make us feel good about ourselves. An added bonus is that you’ll notice yourself being able to do a lot more, feeling fitter, and maybe even notice some changes in the mirror. Although I know that actually getting up and exercising can be demotivating, but make it fun with some good music, by joining a class, or just walk your dog (he’ll thank you for it!).
So if you think it’s time to get your relationship with you back on the straight and narrow, take some time to really make yourself feel amazing, because you are.
By Francesca F.