When you hear about making a relationship last, people will often tell what you need to do, what key steps are involved, or even how much money you need to spend on your partner in Valentine’s Day.
In all reality, you do not have to spend any money on your partner to build a relationship and keep it over time. All you need is three of your natural born senses.
While you may see your partner every day, it is not what I am talking about here. In fact, all you need to do is look your partners in the eyes. They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul, when you look your partners in the eyes, it builds a bond stronger than words can ever build. Not only does it show your partner that your attention is fully devoted to them, but it also shows you are invested in the conversation.
Everyone knows that touching is one of the building blocks of a relationship. Although you do not need to be intimate, even holding your partner’s hand is enough to reassure them at times. There is a science behind touching your partner daily; there is a natural need for nurturing. So no matter how much your partner may claim not to like being touched, it is crucial to having a satisfying relationship for both parties.
When your partner comes home, make it a point to touch their arm, hug them, or even hold their hand as you two watch TV. While this only works for relationships where you see your partner, creating a similar bond while in a long distance relationship is possible with a little work.
Somewhat more complicated to explain is hearing. Hearing means you hear them both physically and metaphorically, to understand and to listen. Communication is one of the biggest factors of a relationship. From when you are just starting out, to decades later, as long as there is communication between you two, it will make a world of difference compared to if you were closed off.
While these are only three of your senses, it just goes to prove that for this Valentine’s Day, you shouldn’t spend hundreds of dollars to show your affections. From a simple movie night to even a homemade dinner, there are hundreds of ways to express yourself to your partner. So whether you and your partner are near or far this year, save some money and appreciate what Valentine’s Day is really about. Love those around you in its purest form, no flowers or chocolate needed.
By Brittany G.