Do you feel the need to just end a friendship?
Sometimes certain friendships can be extremely toxic to your life. They end up bringing the worst out of you, or worse, they just add to your problems.
It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been friends with someone if they aren’t good for you, it’s time that they leave your life.
Below are signs that you might need to end a friendship:
1. They Keep Repeating Mistakes
People make mistakes, its human nature. No matter who the person is, your feelings will get hurt. And when a friend does hurt you, the best thing to do is explain your hurt feelings to them (once you’ve calmed down and your anger is subdued).
However, if they keep repeating their mistakes, without having any disregard to your feelings, either this person is not sensitive towards your feelings or doesn’t really care how their actions cause other people to react. If the cycle keeps repeating, especially when you have been communicating with them on a regular basis, then there is a huge problem.
2. Their Unhealthy Lifestyle Affects You
Sometimes certain friendships are built on foundations that are the basis of hobbies, interests, and entertainment. And with time, some of these interests fade out – which isn’t a big problem. However, if the basis of your friendship is partying and dangerous behavior, then that is a big problem. If you two can commit to getting better and a healthier lifestyle, then great – if you are and they are not, it can hold you back on so many levels.
3. They Don’t Care About Your Feelings
Sometimes our close friends know a thing or two about us that no one else does. So there are certain topics that they know and they also know what may prompt us to revisit something very painful. No, it doesn’t mean that your friends should constantly walk on eggshells around you, but their sensitivity or lack of it can be deemed as thoughtless. That being said, if there is a pattern of the insensitivity of thoughtless jokes, talking incessantly about something that is hurtful – they need to stop.
4. When They Are In a Relationship, They Don’t Spend Time with You
It is understood that when a friend has gone from single to in a relationship, they won’t have that much time to spend with you anymore. And you may feel it even more when you’re single. However, if they just contact you when they are single and don’t know what to do with their weekend nights, it seems a little selfish.
Everyone needs to be able to balance their life and the relationships out maturely, and they are not able to do so seems as if they don’t take your friendship with them that seriously.
5. They Have No Respect for Your Beliefs
We all have different beliefs, be it politically or religiously, and that is something natural that people don’t agree with one another all the time. It’s perfectly fine to have a debatable healthy discussion about our point of views. However, if your friend has no regard for your views and dismisses them as stupid or idiotic, that is being disrespectful and that is not acceptable. No one has the right to disrespect you nor your intellect just because they don’t see eye-to-eye with you.
6. They Make You Self-Doubt Yourself
When a friend loves you, especially a true one, their love for you is completely unconditional. As life progresses, we all have a habit of making different choices in our life that make us take a different path, that being said our priorities also change.
It is absolutely terrible that when a friend makes snide and hurtful remarks about your or someone else’s lifestyle that could be similar to yours. It could an implication that they are judging you. Something like this should be up for discussion, if it continues – then you know what to do.
7. You No Longer Build Pleasant Memories Whenever You Sit Together
Sometimes we have some wonderful memories we make with people. Memories filled with happiness, inside jokes, experiences that you may have bonded over and helped you grow as a person. It sometimes gets hard to end a friendship since you put in a great deal of emotional investment over the years. However, if you are more attached to the memories than the person, maybe it’s time you let go.
It will be hurtful to end a friendship initially, and you may even be tempted to let reverse things. Hopefully, when you look back you’ll be thankful for the friendship you had with them and thank them for the memories.
Author Bio: Jessica Barden is a Spiritual Healer and an amateur Blogger. Having spent a big chunk of her life, she now uses her free time to write blogs at Writing Bunch on human nature, relationships, and spirituality.