Signs of Emotional Maturity

Do you think there is a certain age at which emotional maturity sets in? 18 or 21? 30 or even 40? Maybe 70? Who can tell?!

There are young people who are mature well beyond their years, and on the other hand, there are much older people who act so childish!

So, what are the main character traits that show emotional maturity? When are you old enough to say “I’m too old for this”?

Emotional maturity is a state when an individual is in a position to realize what is happening around, to understand the rationale behind those events and does not get too elated nor too depressed by final results. Basically, it’s when you are in a position to absorb pressures and remain unperturbed by the situations around you. It does not always depend on your actual age, more on experience. Maturity is wisdom in a sense. Emotional maturity refers to your ability to understand, and manage, your emotions. When you are faced with a difficult situation, your level of emotional maturity is one of the biggest factors in determining your ability to cope.

Here are some common signs of emotional maturity:

Mature people do not find the patience for injustice.

They do not keep their thoughts to themselves when they sense that something was done wrong either to them or to other people around them. Younger people do not always do the same unless it is widely acceptable for them to shout out. Yet, older, mature people, do not care for their popularity scale.

Mature people take responsibility for their own lives

They understand that the current circumstances are a result of the decisions they have taken up to now. When something goes wrong, they do not rush to blame others and identify what they can do differently the next time and develop a plan to implement these changes.

Mature people tend to realize the consequences of their actions.

Before saying or doing anything, they weigh the possible outcomes and think about how it will affect others. Acting impulsively can often backfire, especially if someone is acting on strong emotions.

Mature people talk less and listen more.

They gain more information by listening to others and trying to understand those around them. Individuals who are more mature do not need to prove themselves to others; they do not always feel the need to be accepted and know that their point of view has been acknowledged, accepted and agreed with.

Mature people do not have the time to spend time with people they do not want to be spending time with

They do not care what some people might think of them – they have other things to do and other ways of spending their free afternoons and evenings. When you’re older and ‘wiser’, it seems to be easier to identify people who are not worth your time, and to confront problems with your loved ones when it’s worth it, and to know when it isn’t worth it.

Mature people do not apologize for who they are.

If you feel good about the decisions you make and how you treat others, that’s really all you need at this point. Insecure and immature people who feel lousy about their own behaviors or lack of confidence may try to pick apart your character or life choices, but that is completely their problem.

Mature people may come across as skeptical, however, they are often more optimistic.

No, they are not deluded – they know that success requires effort and patience. Although, they may have an optimistic disposition whereby they believe that you can cope with whatever life throws at you. They also believe that there are opportunities out there, so they seek them out.


By Anastasia T.